So I had this conversation today which felt kinda special despite it being really brief. Can you relate to it too?
So today in this Cafe named Corner House in Lavelle Road area of our city Bangalore in India, I initiated conversation with this woman who was browsing what to buy. She is also an Indian by the way and not a foreign expat woman like my previous conversations. I said her Hi and she removed her earbuds (yeah they are wireless earphones and it was hidden behind her long hair so didn't notice it and I usually don't approach someone with earphones). She smiled and said Hi for real. I then said I am just trying to say hello to new people and just trying to socialize as I am freshly done with my MBA so University life is over. She said oh thats great. She then asked me whether I live in Bangalore and I said yes but originally from West Bengal. I then asked her whether she is studying or working and she said she also has freshly graduated and is working now. Idk whether is a Bachelors graduate or a Masters graduate but she is definitely in the 21-25 age range depending on what she graduated with so she is a peer to me as I am 25. I then said her hope you are having a great day and she said yes. I also said her sorry if I interrupted you tho and said I was just trying to genuinely meet new people. She said yeah its okay and idk why but I laughed a bit and she also laughed. Then I said her okay have a great day and she said you too. Honestly I wanted to talk more and she is beautiful but I couldn't.
Thats because I know how to talk properly to foreign especially Western expat women as they talk well and ask me questions and the conversations remain 2-sided with both participating whereas with many Indian women, the interactions are one-sided with only me talking and asking questions more as many are reserved and cautious mainly due to Indian social norms like safety reason, fear of "what will people think", more conservative upbringing than most Westerners, fear of judgment from friends or family etc. So I also have to be more careful talking to them so they are comfortable. Many don't ask me questions so I often don't know what more to say. So I didn't even ask her name or anything. But this one kinda still felt special. Thats because she smiled, laughed and still asked me a question and its quite rare to get it from an Indian woman. She also reminds me of my first ever approach to this woman Dimple in mid 2024 when I was 23 and in my 3rd semester of MBA and that was a huge moment for me that was the first time I approached a woman without anyone's help after years of shyness near girls. Dimple also was wearing earbuds which I didn't notice due to her long hair hiding it but when I approached her, she removed it and talked to me well in a gentle soft way with a smile and this woman too did the same so it reminded me of that moment with Dimple too.
But the only difference is with Dimple, we still shared the same University and setting so I could meet her the next day too even though she distanced herself eventually but with this woman I met her in a Cafe so I might never meet her again unless we happen to bump into each other again in Church Street or Lavelle Road or UB City mall which has happened with some expat women and they were friendlier the 2nd time. I am not expecting anything from this tho but damn after quite a long time a conversation felt quite special like my MBA moments.
Thats because I know how to talk properly to foreign especially Western expat women as they talk well and ask me questions and the conversations remain 2-sided with both participating whereas with many Indian women, the interactions are one-sided with only me talking and asking questions more as many are reserved and cautious mainly due to Indian social norms like safety reason, fear of "what will people think", more conservative upbringing than most Westerners, fear of judgment from friends or family etc. So I also have to be more careful talking to them so they are comfortable. Many don't ask me questions so I often don't know what more to say. So I didn't even ask her name or anything. But this one kinda still felt special. Thats because she smiled, laughed and still asked me a question and its quite rare to get it from an Indian woman. She also reminds me of my first ever approach to this woman Dimple in mid 2024 when I was 23 and in my 3rd semester of MBA and that was a huge moment for me that was the first time I approached a woman without anyone's help after years of shyness near girls. Dimple also was wearing earbuds which I didn't notice due to her long hair hiding it but when I approached her, she removed it and talked to me well in a gentle soft way with a smile and this woman too did the same so it reminded me of that moment with Dimple too.
But the only difference is with Dimple, we still shared the same University and setting so I could meet her the next day too even though she distanced herself eventually but with this woman I met her in a Cafe so I might never meet her again unless we happen to bump into each other again in Church Street or Lavelle Road or UB City mall which has happened with some expat women and they were friendlier the 2nd time. I am not expecting anything from this tho but damn after quite a long time a conversation felt quite special like my MBA moments.
22-25, M