Was it bad of me to assume that most Bengalis don't date but was proven wrong after entering my MBA? Be honest.
So I am myself a Bengali dude born in Siliguri in West Bengal in India but living in the city Bangalore in South India since 2008 so did most my schooling, undergrads and even MBA here. But my environment in school days was mostly South Indians usually Telugu, Tamil and Kannada speaking and I got bullied a lot in my school days which made get trust issues with boys and extreme shyness near girls. My undergrads(engineering) environment was also predominantly South Indian with mostly Kannada speaking students. Only in MBA, I was surrounded by students from pan India like North Indians, Odias, Bengalis, Marathis, South Indians, Central Indians etc. I used to always think Bengali guys never really date because most Bengali guys have this stereotype as being quiet, artistic, intellectual, nerdy, not very bold or flashy. I myself was shy due to the bullying so I often assumed other Bengali guys as similar too and thought mainly North Indian guys date as many of them are louder and flashier especially the ones from Delhi, Punjab, Noida etc. Even though Bengali women are usually more bubbly and outgoing, I used to still think they didn't date because I thought many Bengali parents are strict especially with their daughters so having a bf is hard but I was wrong.
After entering my MBA is when I saw that Bengalis do date a lot. I just didn't notice it before MBA because most in my environment were South Indians and many South Indians are more conservative about dating or male-female interactions and gender segregation is more common for them. I just didn't have many Bengali peers in school and undergrads so didn't know it. But in MBA, I saw that majority of the Bengali women already have boyfriend in their hometown but it turned long distance after they came to Bangalore for their MBA. Most of them are from Kolkata where Bengalis do date but even smaller Bengali city women too like from Durgapur or even my hometown Siliguri have bf too. Its honestly super hard to find Bengali women who are single as I always end up finding out that they either already have a bf in their hometown or eventually found someone before I have the chance to make a move whereas plenty of North Indian, Odia, Marathi women are single. Many Bengali guys date too. I missed out in younger years due to shyness, bullying and isolation but now as a recently turned 25 year old man I am putting myself out there trying to meet women who are from all parts of India and even foreign expats from multiple countries in our city. But yeah this post is about my previous assumptions about fellow Bengali people and how wrong I was.
After entering my MBA is when I saw that Bengalis do date a lot. I just didn't notice it before MBA because most in my environment were South Indians and many South Indians are more conservative about dating or male-female interactions and gender segregation is more common for them. I just didn't have many Bengali peers in school and undergrads so didn't know it. But in MBA, I saw that majority of the Bengali women already have boyfriend in their hometown but it turned long distance after they came to Bangalore for their MBA. Most of them are from Kolkata where Bengalis do date but even smaller Bengali city women too like from Durgapur or even my hometown Siliguri have bf too. Its honestly super hard to find Bengali women who are single as I always end up finding out that they either already have a bf in their hometown or eventually found someone before I have the chance to make a move whereas plenty of North Indian, Odia, Marathi women are single. Many Bengali guys date too. I missed out in younger years due to shyness, bullying and isolation but now as a recently turned 25 year old man I am putting myself out there trying to meet women who are from all parts of India and even foreign expats from multiple countries in our city. But yeah this post is about my previous assumptions about fellow Bengali people and how wrong I was.
22-25, M