Please consider helping me and my husband 🫂

My husband has been unable to work since the beginning of the war (due to conscription), and once we used up our savings, we had to take a credit.

Prices have risen 300-600% during the past 3, soon 4 years, and I cannot afford my medication nor checkups for my health issues.

We are at a point where we cannot take anymore credit, and we can't pay the interest for the credit we have already taken.

We are about to lose our apartment, and if the authorities get involved as they will when they take it from us, my husband will be sent to war. He's a 34 year old autistic, very kind man, who can't possibly fare in a war.

Please consider helping us, from the bottom of our hearts, this is our absolute last resort. The debt is $7100, but I obviously don't expect to raise anything near that. If we can raise just $1000, it will already be a HUGE relief, as it will buy us time before we lose the apartment. Every day is valuable, as we continue to try to get the money, and we each have our projects and are working on it every second of every day.

$5 dollars alone could be a huge help if everyone would do it, so if you have just $5 to spare, please consider taking the time to help us.

It means everything to us, and could quite literally be the difference between life and death for my husband.

I love you all. 🫂 ♥

Link to my GoFundMe page:

https://gofund.me/6a17cd017

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SchoolBelle · 61-69, F

Why is your husband not in the army?

Is he disabled?

Is he mentally incapacitated?

Nightwings · F

@SchoolBelle He is not mentally suited for the army, but that does not stop them from attempting to recruit him, given that mental health awareness is non-existent in Ukraine.

SchoolBelle · 61-69, F

@Nightwings In what way is he not mentally suited to fight for his country?

Nightwings · F

@SchoolBelle How can I explain this to a person who does not experience the same? Why should I discuss my husband's private matters in detail, in ways that could embarrass him, for everyone to see? I have written that he is autistic, and that is all have to say about that. He is smart in many ways, but he is not the type of person you would want in this situation.

Nightwings · F

@SchoolBelle I have been thinking since I read your replies, and here is what some people don't understand. My husband, and every other man in hiding in Ukraine (as most are), don't deserve this even if they are mentally and physically fit. It is not a movie, these are real people. This war is not like in a first world country, when you go to another part of the world with equipment ten times better than the enemy, and receive training before facing the real situation. Nearly everyone who gets conscribed to the Ukrainian army dies. They don't get to decide where they go, everyone is needed on the front lines. They will lie in a ditch and shoot blindly into the void, holding a gun in their hands for the first time. They have lives, they have futures and plans, and one day this terrible thing happens, and now you think they should give everything up? The fact that you are a woman saying this to a man who doesn't have a choice, when you will always have choice, is appalling sexism. You are also a cuddled and privileged person from a country that does not have conscription. You would probably say it's tragic when women die in the bombings, yet you think men should go shower in bombs to look heroic? No, when bad things happen people try to survive, obviously. The conscription is far more dangerous than the bombs that fall around us. Ukraine is completely outnumbered and never had a chance to defend herself from Russia. People only get one life, and no one deserves to die young, whether it's from cancer or from war. You talk like there is good and bad death, but all death is bad. My husband will live a long life, achieve his goals and dreams, and die comfortably at home when he's old, just like the men in your country gets to do. While some people like my husband are more vulnerable than others, no young person with zero military training is fit to throw away their life and die in a ditch.