Am i really behind at my age when it comes to dating? Is it weird that I am in my mid 20s and still no girlfriend?
So I am 24 now and still never had a gf and it feels alarming. I spent my teenage years getting severely bullied and being isolated which made me extremely shy near women throughout my teenage years and even some of my early 20s plus I live in Bangalore in India and in my country things are definitely different than the West. I had the chance in my MBA where I went from 22 but was still a bit shy so missed out and only got confident last year at 23 after entering 2nd year of MBA but it was almost wrapping up so even if I could talk to women finally, MBA got over.
Now MBA is freshly done and i am searching for a job and was fired few months ago from an internship so unable to meet women in a structured way so relying more on cold approaches in Cafes, pubs, bookstores of Church Street, Lavelle road and inside UB City mall and dming women on Instagram. I can confidently approach any woman including foreign women who are expats in our city Bangalore and also Indian women but most Indian women are cautious about strangers approaching so it doesn't go well and foreign women are more open but as I live quite far away in Munnekolala neighborhood of Bangalore which is 15-17 km from UB City, its hard to meet them regularly so no momentum or rapport is being built and I am more in home with parents. Dating apps don't work so I don't use them anymore and many women don't reply on Instagram or ghosts me.
I am turning 25 next month on 22nd December and my biggest worry is becoming a reality. At 22-23 i was like I should try hard so that I don't end up being without a gf at 25 but now i am almost at that stage where i can say "I never had a gf even at 25". Its making me upset that I am nearly 25 without any gf and many people says its a red flag because 25 is often considered a mature and serious and a fully grown adult age. I will no longer be a young person after that. It sucks how much bullying, isolation and shyness has delayed development for me and I missed out a lot.
Now MBA is freshly done and i am searching for a job and was fired few months ago from an internship so unable to meet women in a structured way so relying more on cold approaches in Cafes, pubs, bookstores of Church Street, Lavelle road and inside UB City mall and dming women on Instagram. I can confidently approach any woman including foreign women who are expats in our city Bangalore and also Indian women but most Indian women are cautious about strangers approaching so it doesn't go well and foreign women are more open but as I live quite far away in Munnekolala neighborhood of Bangalore which is 15-17 km from UB City, its hard to meet them regularly so no momentum or rapport is being built and I am more in home with parents. Dating apps don't work so I don't use them anymore and many women don't reply on Instagram or ghosts me.
I am turning 25 next month on 22nd December and my biggest worry is becoming a reality. At 22-23 i was like I should try hard so that I don't end up being without a gf at 25 but now i am almost at that stage where i can say "I never had a gf even at 25". Its making me upset that I am nearly 25 without any gf and many people says its a red flag because 25 is often considered a mature and serious and a fully grown adult age. I will no longer be a young person after that. It sucks how much bullying, isolation and shyness has delayed development for me and I missed out a lot.
22-25, M