Do you feel Anshika and Vaibhav are in relationship now? Do you feel surprising her on convocation ceremony will be a bad idea?

So as you all know Anshika was my major crush during my 1st year of MBA in 2023 to early 2024. I was sadly a bit shy 2 years ago so even though Anshika initiated conversations with me, I wasn't able to initiate and missed out on making my moves on her. She even called me cute and I blushed and probably knew too I had crush on her as she would teasingly smile at me but my shyness was a barrier. Then she stopped talking for a while after I got crush on this another girl Akansha(she wasn't interested in me either) but again talked once in 3rd semester last year and again 5 months ago during a campus visit she said me Hi again. Now lets come to Vaibhav. He was my classmate too in 1st year of MBA but he would hang around with Anshika often in breaks. Another guy Mayank is also her best male friend but he has a girlfriend in his hometown Kolkata so yeah he won't date her. So Vaibhav and Mayank will most of the time be with her.

Even now in 2025, they all 3 went to this South Indian hill station Kodaikanal and just few days ago to Goa for trip as I saw in their Instagram stories and posts. I also noticed that when Anshika posts her pics on Instagram, Vaibhav will comment "I bet even the trees felt your beauty" or "Sun-kissed ❎ Sun-f****** ✅" and in one of her post he even commented "Mahila mitra"(which in Hindi either means female friend or even girlfriend). Anshika too commented this "❤🧿" in one of latest Instagram post of Vaibhav. Again both Vaibhav and Anshika are hindi speaking North Indians and I am a Bengali and we live in Bangalore, India now. She is 24, I am also 24 and Vaibhav is about 25. Idk next month is our MBA convocation(grad ceremony) and I wanted to surprise Anshika(and the other girls) with my grown confidence and wanted to show her I am not that shy dude anymore and talk confidently but I am worried that if she is dating Vaibhav it might be hard and Vaibhav might get defensive even though Vaibhav too knew back in 1st year that I had crush on her. What do you people feel?

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OlderSometimesWiser · F

Just wondering if there are arranged marriages in your circle and if that’s something you’d be interested in. From your posts, doesn’t seem like there are many activities for singles in your area and just walking up to women you don’t know to start a conversation doesn’t seem to be very successful.

Heroisthebest24 · 22-25, M

@OlderSometimesWiser Stop it. I dont want an arranged marriage at all. Its outdated and primitive. Also I am just 24 freshly done with an MBA and still job searching and I am not ready for a marriage. Why are you thinking I am living in some small town? Its Bangalore, a major metro city in India. I just happen to live in Munnekolala area which is in East Bangalore and more local and residential and far(about 15-17 km) from the Central areas which is more bustling and full of activities. I live with parents so limited freedom. Let me get a job first.

OlderSometimesWiser · F

@Heroisthebest24 Dude, don’t give me an attitude. I’m not from your country and was asking a simple question. I’ve read some of your posts, know that you don’t live in a small town but do live with your parents. I also know that whatever you’re trying hasn’t been working which is why I wondered if arranged marriage was a possibility.

If this comment is an example of your social skills, it’s not surprising you’re having trouble with women.

Heroisthebest24 · 22-25, M

@OlderSometimesWiser Sorry I just get frustrated when people ask about arranged marriages. Its outdated and primitive to me and I am fed up of being in this country honestly.

OlderSometimesWiser · F

@Heroisthebest24 That’s okay and for what it’s worth, I do wish you the best. Just sounds like you might need to try something new. Any possibility of seeking out a job in another country? Or, even though it’s somewhat far, making more of an effort to get to singles activities in the central areas? At least at those activities, you’d have a group of people all looking for partners therefore a better chance of finding one. You’ve spoken of having more confidence now so you might do very well. 🙂