Definitely a life lesson

The lesson I mentioned today is for all you men out there who wonder why women seem to express deep interest and then out of nowhere ghost you. It is because truthfully they did not want to connect with you you were being used as a place card and a instrument to occupy his face until the man they really wanted to connect with returned or simply because at the time he did not want them so they found a suitable substitute. If she really respected you treasured your friendship or wanted to connect with you she wouldn't have simply ghosted you in the first place

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Fallflower · 46-50, F

Hmm. It’s possible she did want to connect but just didn’t feel the connection happening. Sometimes things feel like they click, sometimes they don’t.

And I haven’t actually met a guy who genuinely wants to be friends if we started out on a date. “Friends” to them has always meant there’s a chance they might get back in my pants. She may have given up on the idea of “treasuring a friendship” based on those kinds of experiences.

KingofBones1 · 46-50, M

@Fallflower well that's because a lot of desperate men make the rest of us look bad second of all whether the connection was happening or not out of human decency and honesty people deserve to be told straight up. You say something like you know I'm just not feeling this or something. That is respect. Also I am referring to situations not only were things were clearly not happening but I am talking about the type of situation where everything is going well she is playing it out to be like she is into you and then just for no reason shuts down go on not a word no reply ever. You cannot justify that from man or woman that's just my opinion

Fallflower · 46-50, F

@KingofBones1 OK I agree with that. Saying something like I'm not feeling this, is only kind to do. Leading him on and then disappearing is shitty.

I've been ghosted lots of times at this point. It hurts.