How did you get over heartbreak?

The love of my life is gone from my life for the last 18 months. Everything was my fault for breaking it off with him, but he promised me we would always be good friends before he developed a relationship with his bride. I thought even though we were no longer in a romantic relationship we would always be friends and stay in each others’ lives. I could have swallowed my feelings and just been his friend for the sake of him and his wife. He told me three and a half months before he got engaged he could love me and still let me go with a video clip from 13 reasons why when Clay is letting go of Hannah at her funeral and giving a speech. I asked him if we would always be friends and his response was yeah of course crazy. I not only lost a relationship but I lost the friendship of someone i loved and admired.

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Younameit · F

How could you hate yourself so much? The man clearly has moved on and doesn’t consider you as the love his life, at all. Or else he would have

never

married someone else, even if you broke up with him. He would have found a way to be back with you. But he didn’t.

Sorry if I am too blunt, I have just seen toooo many cases of women humiliating themselves for men who can easily replace them, like yours did. It’s sad 🤷‍♀.

midnightmagic · 31-35, F

@Younameit well he did think of me as the love of his life long ago before I broke up with him. He couldn’t picture being with anyone else for years on end. I don’t think I can humiliate myself when he has nothing to do with me. I would have been at least less sad if we stayed good friends and stayed in each others lives.

Younameit · F

@midnightmagic That’s exactly what you’re doing. The man has a whole bride, and it’s not you.