Are even unfortunately these Indian guys here(in my city I mean) still ahead of me socially? Say honestly.
I already feel lesser than Western men who had years and decades of female interactions, dating experience and relationships but nowadays in my city Bangalore, India I see couples around even holding hands and walking, in Cafes, brewpubs, UB City mall(and even other malls), Church Street etc. I am 24 and still yet to get a gf and can't even get a woman to hangout with me. I asked this girl from my MBA campus who is my junior to hangout with me but she postponed the plan twice because of exams. I see on Instagram many of my MBA year people and even junior year(all in my age group) hanging out in mixed gender groups(both male and females in the group) to brewpubs and other venues. These guys are able to hangout with women.
At least with Western men being more experienced its understandable as in the West, dating is easier and most people have female interactions since they are kids but now even in India, other Indian men are hanging around with women, having gf and stuffs. It makes me feel as if I am behind other Indian men too. Its harder as I am basically done with my MBA and only graduation left and searching for a job so unable to meet women in a structured way. So I am probably being a "weirdo" who is cold approaching women(both Indian and foreign) in Cafes and UB City mall which can feel like madness as India is often said to be unsafe for women and often Indian men are stereotypes as creeps even though I am being fully respectful and always respecting the woman's boundaries if she isn't interested in talking but it looks like any Indian man approaching a woman in public here is seen as suspicious even if she is a full grown adult(20+). Its like other Indian men are able to meet women from their circle easily whereas I am stuck with cold approaching women or messaging women from my campus and city on Instagram which plenty of time also results in ghosting or slow replies as they too have their own circle of friends.
There is this FOMO when I open Instagram and see people posting stories of their hangouts with videos and pics and some even dating. I feel FOMO when I go to Church Street sometimes and see all these couples and friends groups. What do you people feel?
At least with Western men being more experienced its understandable as in the West, dating is easier and most people have female interactions since they are kids but now even in India, other Indian men are hanging around with women, having gf and stuffs. It makes me feel as if I am behind other Indian men too. Its harder as I am basically done with my MBA and only graduation left and searching for a job so unable to meet women in a structured way. So I am probably being a "weirdo" who is cold approaching women(both Indian and foreign) in Cafes and UB City mall which can feel like madness as India is often said to be unsafe for women and often Indian men are stereotypes as creeps even though I am being fully respectful and always respecting the woman's boundaries if she isn't interested in talking but it looks like any Indian man approaching a woman in public here is seen as suspicious even if she is a full grown adult(20+). Its like other Indian men are able to meet women from their circle easily whereas I am stuck with cold approaching women or messaging women from my campus and city on Instagram which plenty of time also results in ghosting or slow replies as they too have their own circle of friends.
There is this FOMO when I open Instagram and see people posting stories of their hangouts with videos and pics and some even dating. I feel FOMO when I go to Church Street sometimes and see all these couples and friends groups. What do you people feel?
22-25, M