When I confronted market manager about two of things that I don't like that she does, her answers were:

"You do it too!!" (No, I really don't).

and

"I'm sorry you felt that I did that." (About her freaking out at me and being angry so often. Accusing me of things, starting fights with me in public... Like she did today).

Btch I didn't FEEL that. It happened.

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Miram · 31-35, F

I had major fight today at work too but I am not as nice as you are. You are a sweetheart.

Coworker stretches out her leg intentionally at the entrance of a smaller room to force me to ask her to move it. It is passive aggressive. I told her it is impolite and childish and she tried to gaslight me.

So I pulled out my phone to take a picture and show other staff. And naturally she sat back and started screaming about how much she hates me.

As if I care. It is even more childish to tell someone you hate them because they won't tolerate your nonesense in professional setting. After she stopped screaming, I again said "sit properly next time" and let her breathe out smoke like an enraged dragon.

caccoon · 36-40

@Miram ugh!! People can be so frustrating 😩😩 I think you dealt with that well, though.

Sometimes it's so annoying to have to show people how they're behaving. I understand we can't always be self-aware but some stuff is just so common sense, and like you said, childish. 😩😩😩

Miram · 31-35, F

@caccoon

It is actually dangerous, because there were supplies in that room and I could have dropped them on my way out. It was also not the first time she does this. She sometimes stands behind the door and I have to wait for her to move in order to open it. I would hit her otherwise.

I was too tired to argue with her. It could have been far worse. I get extreme anger outbursts I am yet to meet someone who can have more extreme anger than I do. I can't stop being verbally abusive once it starts. It doesn't show online because I have the option to step out. If I am trapped, such as today, it can get pretty bad.

I don't like that about myself even when they deserve it.

caccoon · 36-40

@Miram your anger is totally valid, especially where safety is concerned. 💙💙💙 And everyone has a responsibility to be respective of people they share space with, both inside and outside of the workplace.

We all learn to cope in different ways, and you have had a lot of trauma in the past. It's a very understandable defence mechanism 💙 and it sounds like you deal with a lot of stress at work

You are a loving and gentle person, and sometimes situations happen, or people press buttons that shouldn't be pushed