Do you think that someone that treat others bad (online) can be a good person irl?
I think they will be bad or mean wherever they are. Maybe they will try to hide it but they won't be good people.
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SnailTeeth · 36-40, M
I think good is a subjective assessment.
One time, I bit my grandma when I was 4, and she bit me back. I cried.
Tell me who was good there.
IMO, my gram taught me a lesson the hard way, and I never bit anyone again.
Lately, I've been put through hell. I've bawled my eyes out.
Thought parasocial relationships would suffice for social rehabilitation.
But I needed to learn to stop crying. Sit with anxiety. Not look to others to make me happy.
I think crying and looking to gather a lynch mob over indignations suffered is far more worse.
Demonizing others openly is an aggressive, entitled act.
So, unless you're witnessing a pattern of behavior for yourself, and the person is unwilling to change when confronted, I wouldn't put any stock in the opinions of others.
I also wouldn't turn to others to find my own opinion. Been doing that lately, and it doesn't work.
The lessons you're here to learn in this life are your own, and everyone approaches life with different tools.
In some cultures, it's a virtue to be honest, in others it's an iniquity. In some, trust doesn't exist at all.
No matter where you turn, there will always be an echo chamber to support you.
Even racists and murderous incels have support groups of peers. Good is hardly relevant anymore.
Sheltered, naive, opinionated; these would likely be far more apt descriptors than ever saying anyone is good.
Some people are good at being bad. Some people wear the biggest smiles, right before they shaft you. Old Mafia trick, kill 'em with smiles.
Sharks know how to mask.
One time, I bit my grandma when I was 4, and she bit me back. I cried.
Tell me who was good there.
IMO, my gram taught me a lesson the hard way, and I never bit anyone again.
Lately, I've been put through hell. I've bawled my eyes out.
Thought parasocial relationships would suffice for social rehabilitation.
But I needed to learn to stop crying. Sit with anxiety. Not look to others to make me happy.
I think crying and looking to gather a lynch mob over indignations suffered is far more worse.
Demonizing others openly is an aggressive, entitled act.
So, unless you're witnessing a pattern of behavior for yourself, and the person is unwilling to change when confronted, I wouldn't put any stock in the opinions of others.
I also wouldn't turn to others to find my own opinion. Been doing that lately, and it doesn't work.
The lessons you're here to learn in this life are your own, and everyone approaches life with different tools.
In some cultures, it's a virtue to be honest, in others it's an iniquity. In some, trust doesn't exist at all.
No matter where you turn, there will always be an echo chamber to support you.
Even racists and murderous incels have support groups of peers. Good is hardly relevant anymore.
Sheltered, naive, opinionated; these would likely be far more apt descriptors than ever saying anyone is good.
Some people are good at being bad. Some people wear the biggest smiles, right before they shaft you. Old Mafia trick, kill 'em with smiles.
Sharks know how to mask.