It feels like I am in a rut. Did I truly miss out a lot and now its all over?
So I am 24 and will be fully graduating from my MBA by next month and still don't have a girlfriend or even my first kiss. Now I am in this monotonous boring phase where I can't meet women naturally. Its sad that I went through my full MBA without even a single gf because I was still a bit shy in my 1st year (was too shy in my teenage days too) so even though I had crushes, I couldn't do much and by my 2nd year 3rd semester I was confident enough to talk to women in my campus but none were interested in me and gave excuse like they had class when I asked out 3 of them and final semester has been dissertation and almost none of them kept in touch. I was an intern in this edtech startup where I socializing with multiple female interns who were in their early and mid 20s too but the company was shady and toxic and got unfairly fired from there. So I have been in my home for a month applying for jobs or at least an internship which will convert to full time after its done. So it has been monotonous in home and I am unable to meet women naturally.
I am definitely trying to dm women on Instagram if we have mutuals or common things like MBA background or within the same city as I don't want penpals or LDR and even connecting with women in my age group on Linkedin too. But as I live in Bangalore in India(born in Siliguri in West Bengal, India), Indian women can be very reserved and cautious and many ends up ghosting me. Its super hard to approach Indian women in public too like a Coffee shop or something as they are more cautious and less approachable and most Indian women are never alone. I never drink so bars or pubs aren't for me but even there most women go with partner or friends or in groups and not there to socialize with stranger men and in many pubs at least in Bangalore, solo men are not allowed often. Dating apps haven't worked for me as I don't get matches and its worse in India I guess.
I am definitely approaching and talking with foreign women in this UB City mall who are expats in our city and we have good conversations but they have been one time as I chicken out to ask their Instagram but they are far more open to talking to me and less reserved than most Indian women. Idk when people online says not to date coworkers I am like then how will I find women. Dating apps don't work, there aren't too many places to meet women in India as most Indian women go out in groups or pairs with boyfriend maybe and are cautious or guarded about a stranger man trying to socialize and bars aren't for me so the only place to meet women is workplace as Bangalore has a youthful population so a lot of fellow interns and workers will me in my age group itself like within their 20s. Instagram dms don't give much luck as ghosting is common. Now I am in a rut phase always in home searching for jobs/internships and only chatting with women(Indian ones) on Instagram and Linkedin and talking with foreign expat women in UB City and Cafes. Idk at 24 it feels I am running out of time.
I am definitely trying to dm women on Instagram if we have mutuals or common things like MBA background or within the same city as I don't want penpals or LDR and even connecting with women in my age group on Linkedin too. But as I live in Bangalore in India(born in Siliguri in West Bengal, India), Indian women can be very reserved and cautious and many ends up ghosting me. Its super hard to approach Indian women in public too like a Coffee shop or something as they are more cautious and less approachable and most Indian women are never alone. I never drink so bars or pubs aren't for me but even there most women go with partner or friends or in groups and not there to socialize with stranger men and in many pubs at least in Bangalore, solo men are not allowed often. Dating apps haven't worked for me as I don't get matches and its worse in India I guess.
I am definitely approaching and talking with foreign women in this UB City mall who are expats in our city and we have good conversations but they have been one time as I chicken out to ask their Instagram but they are far more open to talking to me and less reserved than most Indian women. Idk when people online says not to date coworkers I am like then how will I find women. Dating apps don't work, there aren't too many places to meet women in India as most Indian women go out in groups or pairs with boyfriend maybe and are cautious or guarded about a stranger man trying to socialize and bars aren't for me so the only place to meet women is workplace as Bangalore has a youthful population so a lot of fellow interns and workers will me in my age group itself like within their 20s. Instagram dms don't give much luck as ghosting is common. Now I am in a rut phase always in home searching for jobs/internships and only chatting with women(Indian ones) on Instagram and Linkedin and talking with foreign expat women in UB City and Cafes. Idk at 24 it feels I am running out of time.
22-25, M
