When someone has been beaten down her whole life, all she learned how to do is bite. Be kind to her anyway.
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Strapmaster · 70-79, M
I used to readily extend a helping hand to those that had a terrible upbringing and home life, but I've learned through hard won experience that it can be a bad idea. I had my life turned inside out and upside down some years ago when I tried to help someone I'd known for years that was in bad emotional shape. It turned into a NIGHTMARE. So these days I tend to keep on walking. One doesn't need to be drawn into someone else's bullshit and drama. It's not worth the lost sleep or my case, the legal fees it cost me to get her out of my life at the time.
Know upfront that the System is stacked against a man, and once you're in it, you'll play HELL trying to get out of it. There's some people that just can't BE helped no matter how much you try. Better to pass them by and save yourself a ton of regret.
Know upfront that the System is stacked against a man, and once you're in it, you'll play HELL trying to get out of it. There's some people that just can't BE helped no matter how much you try. Better to pass them by and save yourself a ton of regret.
Tumbleweed · F
@Strapmaster I'm sorry you had to go through all that. 😔
This post was actually inspired by someone on here. She's such a hateful person, but I understand why.
This post was actually inspired by someone on here. She's such a hateful person, but I understand why.
Strapmaster · 70-79, M
@Tumbleweed - I grew up in a home that was severely abusive. Not the sexual kind, but plenty of the physical and psychological kind. Back in those days, you couldn't call CPS and turn a lousy parent's life inside out like you can today. CPS didn't exist. But as bad as I had it, they couldn't pound all the good out of me, hence I used to give a helping hand to those in need that were in or came from backgrounds similar to mine, right up until that last one. She stole me blind, damaged my property, and almost ruined my reputation. It all started when I refused to keep giving her money, and I'd given her PLENTY of it over time. it cost me almost 12 GRAND in legal fees to finally get rid of her. I happened to draw the right judge that day who didn't automatically assume the man was at fault. it's a long, sordid story that happened nearly 26 years ago, but it ruined me on trusting people anymore. I'm extremely cautious who I allow into my life anymore. I'd give the same advice to anyone contemplating extending a helping hand these days.
Tumbleweed · F
@Strapmaster I'm so very sorry
Strapmaster · 70-79, M
@Tumbleweed - Thanks for that, but I guess all I can say is that you live and learn. It was damn expensive, but it did the trick. I simply don't trust like I once did.