Morning coffee and soft sun...

I'm working with changing my attitude towards rejection. I'm reaching out to people here and I am getting rejected a lot but I am stirring my mind differently. It's not easy because the feeling wants some days to sit in my belly. But it's okay, for the days that I can do it, I think of how..

- Friendships do take time, people need time to get to know me and feel safe with me.
- If someone is triggered by me and doesn't feel good about me, that has nothing to do with me but it's how the other person is making choices. I free people from having to choose me and like that, I free myself from mourning them not choosing me.
- I believe in a higher power. That whatever happens, happens for the greater purpose of learning and so I accept it.
- I remind myself of the endless possibilities of Life .. and to not get stuck in a certain way of how I'm imagining things should be.
- I'm opening up, admitting my loneliness, admitting I can do it by myself and time alone is necessary for me too ... and being open to taking both, solitude and sharing :))
- I'm changing my narrative, this been going on for a while but now it's solidifying, telling myself of how people love me and want to share their time and activities with me!

Apparently, Spring is settling 🌸😎

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Madmonk · M

Rejection is a gift. A precious gift. It keeps us from having the wrong people in our lives. When the wrong people self sort it’s a gift of time not wasted. Rejection is seldom about the rejected it’s about the place where the rejector is at and is looking for in that time which changes with the seasons.

being · 36-40, F

@Madmonk it takes a lifetime to get to this realisation it seems..:)

Madmonk · M

@being I’ve come to three realizations.

1. Everything is my fault. (Even when it’s not)
2. Everything is a test. Either you are passing or are failing.

3. Everything is a precious gift. Sometimes however you have to wait or scrub harder to see it.

Took me awhile to embrace these truths. They obviously won’t work for everyone lol

being · 36-40, F

@Madmonk I appreciate your list! "Mea Culpa" is a practice of some type of monks if I recall it correctly.
I've definitely chosen my own variation of basic truths
1. Mistakes happen for the shake of learning, variation and correction. I am here to Learn.
2. There are no mistakes, only Life.
3. Life is to be lived! I am here to Love.
:).

Madmonk · M

@being hence the name Madmonk

being · 36-40, F

@Madmonk and hence the name being 🏝😎