My friend talks so much shit about everyone and it makes me so uncomfortable

She is always worried about other people talking about her (probably because she does it so much)

😩😩 I dunno how to deal with it when she does it, I try to just make some kind of non-commital noise to show I am listening but don't agree

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PinkMoon · 26-30, F

She's not your friend,she's someone you feel socially obligated to give your time, attention and care to. A friend is someone who adds value to your life, not strain. You aren't positively benefiting from her presence in your life but she's positively benefiting from you being in her life. She gets to vent and spew her negativity onto you. Does she ever ask you how you are doing? Does she steer the conversation towards you or does she dominate every encounter you have? If she talks shit about everyone she talks shit about you to other people,that's her character. Be careful who you give your time and energy to. Energy vampires prey on people too polite to shut them down because they would rather suffer than seem rude or mean.

caccoon · 36-40

@PinkMoon she can be very caring, and she does ask me how I'm doing, but it's like her brain can't help but just think about herself or being upset about something all of the time

It's really draining absolutely, and I feel like I really feel upset after being around her sometimes

She has done a lot of kind things for me, but she is also controlling

PinkMoon · 26-30, F

@caccoon I'm glad to hear that she has been a friend to you. But it doesn't sound like she's good for your mental health. That's what matters most. You have to protect your peace.

caccoon · 36-40

@PinkMoon yeah, I am definitely drifting from her a bit. 😔