When you all give me dating advice in context of Western dating, why don't you all understand that in India things are different?
Like I am from Bangalore in India but born in Siliguri in West Bengal in India and its definitely different here when it comes to dating and it definitely isn't easy. First reason is that India is a collectivist country where people are more in groups. Most Indian women go out with their group of friends so approaching them in a Cafe or something is harder and many of them are much more cautious and guarded in public. Even in my MBA campus or the recent internship I did, most girls stick with their familiar circle and the direct approach I do is rare here so forming connections take time. Also many say me to just ask out the girl but Indian girls are much more likely to distance herself or avoid me if I ask them on a date in just 2 or 3 days of talking. Many Indian girls are reserved when I approach them. This one girl from my MBA literally distanced herself from me and this another girl in my internship only stuck with her close female friend and was too reserved so I didn't even get much chances to talk to her. Same with other girls as well like one time she is talking and chatting all good and suddenly another day she gives short replies or ghosts me or distances herself. Most of the girls don't even notice me either until I say her Hi even though we spoke before a few times already and its only me initiating the conversations with her.
I noticed this contrast with the Foreign expat women especially the Western ones I talked to in this luxurious mall UB City in our city. They were so friendly and open to conversation and were confident to talk to me. The German women were the best and so were the American expat ones and 4 days ago I also approached this British woman and she was so friendly too and even the East Asian ones were polite and nice whereas even the familiar Indian women are gonna ghost me easily. Whereas with the expat women even if she doesn't wanna talk, she just says no. Its just too hard with Indian women. Even asking for Insta is tricky as they often don't follow back or even if they did then bam, in 2 or 3 days they unfollow. Some unfollows just after seeing my Instagram stories which are mostly of cars and rock music. They are never straightforward about why they don't wanna talk and just ghost silently leaving behind confusion. Many of my connections with girls faded this way as they don't reply or continue chatting. Whats weird was this girl from my campus was all friendly to me in person but on Instagram she was giving one word replies and suddenly blocked me. Also dating apps are terrible in India as the gender ratio is even more skewed on those apps here and I never really got matches and here I am 24 and still single. This is what most of you Western men can't understand and just give advice which won't work in the Indian context.
I noticed this contrast with the Foreign expat women especially the Western ones I talked to in this luxurious mall UB City in our city. They were so friendly and open to conversation and were confident to talk to me. The German women were the best and so were the American expat ones and 4 days ago I also approached this British woman and she was so friendly too and even the East Asian ones were polite and nice whereas even the familiar Indian women are gonna ghost me easily. Whereas with the expat women even if she doesn't wanna talk, she just says no. Its just too hard with Indian women. Even asking for Insta is tricky as they often don't follow back or even if they did then bam, in 2 or 3 days they unfollow. Some unfollows just after seeing my Instagram stories which are mostly of cars and rock music. They are never straightforward about why they don't wanna talk and just ghost silently leaving behind confusion. Many of my connections with girls faded this way as they don't reply or continue chatting. Whats weird was this girl from my campus was all friendly to me in person but on Instagram she was giving one word replies and suddenly blocked me. Also dating apps are terrible in India as the gender ratio is even more skewed on those apps here and I never really got matches and here I am 24 and still single. This is what most of you Western men can't understand and just give advice which won't work in the Indian context.
22-25, M