Kinda tired of being told how to deal with my pain. What I'm allowed to share, what to keep quiet, what to feel and not feel...

And mostly from people who don't understand what its like to of never felt safe or loved. It makes it harder to open up, it makes me feel guilty for wanting connection because I can't match others level of composure. I care more. I work harder. I empathize quietly because why would someone who has good people in their life want to deal with someone who isn't happy and giving 24/7. Yet no matter what I do, I find out eventually that I screwed up, and I don't even know what I did.

I won't quit trying, but it might break me one day and it'll never not hurt to be the one who couldn't get it right.

All attacks at my self worth will be deleted. I'm not explaining to people who don't even care about me what I've been through and how strong I am.

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HijabaDabbaDoo · F

Don't ever feel guilty for wanting connection.
Truthfully we're all gonna have our opinions on how to navigate ourselves, what helps and what doesn't. Policing how you feel is never a part of the conversation. You feel what you feel. It's not right or wrong.
It's a lot of pressure trying to "get it right" but none of us have a formula we go by 24/7. It's impossible. We can try, have some success and try again. That doesn't mean we don't dip. It's the human experience. You're allowed to find connections in ways that help you. We all want that.