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I took a chance and asked for help

I’m cynical. I expected to be let down again.
But I needed at least this one thing: help me throw out the broken fridge.
Even though all the spoiled food was thrown out, and it was cleaned up months ago, it still smells like a carcass. And the state of this house is just wearing me down so much lately. I’m not allowed to touch anything to genuinely clean this place, but there shouldn’t have been any problems getting rid of a broken fridge. We just had to move all this other stuff that was in the way, blocking the door.
I was surprised that two of my sisters said they’d help; even more when they actually showed up.
“Not gonna lie, though,” one said, “If we’re moving stuff, and rat 💩 hits me in the eye, I’m leaving.”

“Why even say stuff like that?” I asked. I was annoyed, but it was also funny to me.

Mom tried to stop us, saying we can’t get rid of anything till she’s gone from this world. She screamed something else at us in Tagalog.

“I don’t know what that means,” I said, “ We aren’t throwing anything but that fridge out. It doesn’t even work. You can’t use it.”

“I don’t care! Don’t touch anything!”

I had enough. “Do I just need to move out?”

She was quiet. I could tell she didn’t want that. I wanted to push for the whole house to be cleared out, but all I was asking for in that moment was for that fridge to go.

We got to work, moving boxes and bags of junk so we could clear a path from the fridge to the door.

As we moved a shelf, pots and pans kept falling off, making a horrible loud clanging. “She’s going to freak out and come in here to stop us.”

“How?” My sister asked, “The door’s blocked by all the junk.” 😈

😂

When we were finally pushing the fridge out towards the front door, we saw that she was clearing a path too. Then she helped get the fridge down the driveway and to the curb.
“What about the other one?” she asked.

“You want us to throw another one out?” I asked, surprised, hopeful.

“No.”

“Oh. I said this one because it’s broken and it stinks.”

So that’s it. Now we wait for bulk trash day to get rid of it.

“I felt really good to help you out,” one of my sisters said, “Not mom, though. I wouldn’t for her.”

I don’t know why her saying that stressed me out so much.
But we got this done. They came through for me after all. I really needed that.
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God bless you all for helping your mother. Even if she doesn't realize you're helping her at this time. God will reward you greatly but I know you did not do this for that purpose but did it selflessly because of your great love for your mother. Those things do not go unnoticed by God. I'm so touched by your story. What an absolutely amazing person you are. The stories were funny hahaha God bless you, sister. You have so many things that have gone against you yet you still keep the faith. That really touches my heart. You're the best.
@LadyGrace I have a lot of anger towards her. She chooses garbage over me and my sisters. It hurts. But I know it’s a picture of my own heart, and that I’ve been holding onto the anger the way she holds onto trash. It’s a hard lesson to deal with.
@Colonelmustardseed it certainly is and I know the feeling. My mom did nothing but hurt me. So I do understand. Things do hurt and make us angry. We wouldn't be human if they didn't. As far as the anger, it's important to let that go so that we can heal our own hearts. I'm so sorry your mom hurt you and your sisters. It is hard to deal with. What she did was not your fault. It is a mirror of the turmoil inside of her that she needs to resolve. You have every right to feel the way you do. God understands. Forgiveness is not really for the other person because they don't even know sometimes when they are forgiven. It is for us so that the anger and hurt doesn't eat us up inside. God will take care of the rest, rest assured sweet lady. If anybody understands it is God and he cares and he will listen to our prayers. Our prayers never come back void.
Glad you could at least make that progress. Despite watching lots of Hoarders shows, I still have trouble understanding wanting to hold onto rotten food. I literally have to turn away when those saintly cleaners open up their refrigerators.
(((((HUGS))))) I am so very glad that You got the help You needed 😊🤗❤ My own mother was a packrat for years, walking around her apartment was like trying to navigate around a maze. However she did throw garbage out and kept a clean kitchen and bathroom, her fridge and freezers however was a different matter. I once threw out over 50 pounds worth of expired food, one package of meat in her deep freezer expired five years before.
@Colonelmustardseed She bought a food sealer for fruits and veggies, put them in the deep freezer, and forget about them, my older brother told me that when she moved in with my older step sister last may she had over 100 pounds of frozen produce.
@NativePortlander1970 It was a good idea if only she’d remembered them.
@Colonelmustardseed She's a sale buyer, if it's even 50 cents off per pound, into her shopping cart, regardless if she already has some.

 
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