Today while I was doing clay, my friend came and sat with me, and told me some pretty heavy shit about herself

She is always taking care of everyone, and she's an amazing support. But she has trouble letting people help her, or open up about things. She really needs therapy but everytime certain subjects come up, she finds a reason to stop therapy because it's so uncomfortable for her.

I feel so badly for her. I already kind of had a feeling of what she'd been through, because of how her attitude would change whenever this thing was mentioned.

I really wish I could take it away from her and it just wouldn't be a problem for her. It's so awful when our trauma is so buried or painful that we can't even begin to heal it.

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Starcrossed · 41-45, F

I wonder if she just didn't feel fully supported in the right ways by her past therapists. It took me going through several over years before I found one I trusted enough to spill my darkest parts.

It seems like you've made some good progress with your most recent person, would you feel comfortable referring your friend?

caccoon · 36-40

@Starcrossed it could be that she hasn't found the right therapist yet. I think she is so used to just hiding and supressing it that it's too uncomfortable to look at, and she feels it doesn't even need working through (which I get, because I've been there, but I do think she'd find some healing in talking about it)

I have mentioned my therapist, but this friend is actually the one that found this therapist, so she already knows about her... but hmmm... yeah. I will talk to my friend some more about it over time and hopefully we can find something that might help her

Starcrossed · 41-45, F

You're a good friend @caccoon

caccoon · 36-40

@Starcrossed she's a really good friend too

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