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Why are single older men who have never been in a relationship before more sad and bitter than single men who had relationships before but single now?

I just found another man on quora who is 55 year old and never been in a relationship before. In his answers he says how he has never been on a real date before, never even kissed a woman and has 0 relationship experiences and how that makes him feel miserable and bitter. He keeps saying how he feels like a loser and how everyone is better than him and how he will be alone forever. Similarly on reddit too I saw 2 men in their 40s who never had a girlfriend before and they too feel terrible and call themselves a loser. These answers scare me as I am 22 and in the same boat as them and never even been kissed. Btw why do these older men who never been in relationship or date feel more miserable, bitter and sad compared to the single men who had relationships before or were married but are single now due to divorce or breakup? I see the divorced men who are single now are not as sad as these men with 0 relationship experiences. Why is it that way?
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Misanthropic · 26-30, M
It's because being in a relationship is often not as wonderful as it seems, if you've been in relationships you know that it isn't all good. People who have never been in a relationahip will likely build up an unrealistic image of what it is like to be in one and as a result feel like they are missing out. It also damages a persons confidence because they feel like there is something wrong with them that makes them unattractive.
Heroisthebest24 · 22-25, M
@Misanthropic Honestly I can understand because I am 22 and never been in a relationship and already feel as if I am running out of time so can't imagine how a 40 year old will feel who is in the same boat as me.
Misanthropic · 26-30, M
@Heroisthebest24 I was 23 when I lost my virginity and I felt undateable before I did lose it, but the confidence that comes with experience will make you more attractive to women.
Heroisthebest24 · 22-25, M
@Misanthropic I do have a crush on a girl who is also 22 but I am just shy to even say her hi. Usually she is the one who tries to talk to me and I answer her. We are in the same class where I go for preparation for exams to get into an MBA B School as I just graduated college last month.