Watched them take their last breath

I watched my my grandparent and pet pass away and take their last breath as I watched. This was years ago and I still remember that image as I held them. Is watching someone take their last breath traumatic or more saddening than just finding out they passed away?

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ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F

I was with my grandma as she took her last breath. It was actually quite peaceful and somehow comforting to me, that I was there. I’m certain grandpa showed up to collect her, because she suddenly opened her eyes, looking up at the wall, and gasped…I was holding her hand and I asked her “what is it? Is it grandpa? It’s okay, you can go with him”

And she closed her eyes, did a tiny shudder and exhaled, her whole body relaxing.
Moments later, she gave the ‘death rattle’ and the nurse assured me she had passed.

I miss her, but I feel blessed to have been there to help her pass over.

Fifidog · 26-30, F

@ImpeccablyImperfect thank you for your comment as at the time I had felt more peaceful knowing I was there with them. What was the grieving process like for you after that? 3 years passed and I still cry about it often

ImpeccablyImperfect · 51-55, F

@Fifidog honestly, I don’t cry over it. I know they are together and at peace (if not utterly happy!)
I’ll expound a little more, if that’s okay…that night, as I lay in bed I was watching the shadows of the trees on the wall. I was just thinking about my grandma and suddenly the trees’ shadows started swaying more, kind of morphing into shapes…I kid you not, the shadows moved around and I suddenly could [i][b]‘see’[/b][/i] my grandma and grandpa together, both of them on a San Francisco trolley, holding on but hanging out the side, smiling huge grins and waving at me.
So I feel no sadness. They are good.

Fifidog · 26-30, F

@ImpeccablyImperfect that is amazing thank you for sharing that with me. It’s comforting to know they are happy!

goodlil666 · 51-55, MVIP

It was one of the most spiritual and eye open moments in my life. My sister was holding her other hand and we both had the exact same experience at the same time but didn't realize it until a few days later.

Fifidog · 26-30, F

Did it bother you in any way? Like are you still grieving years later? Did it make your hearing any more complicated do you think @goodlil666

goodlil666 · 51-55, MVIP

@Fifidog it was a positive experience considering the circumstances. And one that changed my view of life and death.

Fifidog · 26-30, F

In what way did it change your view @goodlil666

Spoiledbrat · F

Probably

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