Healthy friendship should be balanced and respect each other’s boundaries
WELL I finally cut my proverbial vampire, ‘missing cat’ friend loose.
It’s sucks, but it was an inevitably.
Apparently I can’t even talk about how this person constantly showing up super late was a problem without them twisting it into me being un-empathetic/inconsiderate, ‘militant’, ‘inflexible’, and trying to guilt/shame me into not having boundaries about the value of my own time..
—Nevermind that when we hang out it’s almost entirely me listening to her vent about the latest bs she’s gotten herself into and I can’t comfortably share hardly anything going on in my life because she immediately radiates an envious, self-pitying sadness.
😑 FFS.. she even tried to make me feel bad for asking her to have a ‘gentle talk with her son about respecting other peoples’ property’ because the last time he came over he nonchalantly broke a gift that was special to my kiddo.
Apparently being asked that her son not to break more of my kid’s things hurt his and her feelings. 😑
I’m done.. I don’t wanna go back to being a hermit, but it’s less stressful. My partner’’s been supportive, but I can tell he’s also spent on listening to me vent about this ‘friendship’ and how it frazzled me, which is fair..
I need to wash my hands of it.
Even my 11 year old who overheard the whole disagreement with Donna joked I should block her
😬 🤷🏻♀️😅🤣
There’s truth in it though. I talk a lot about healthy friendships and boundaries with Sam. This thing with Dona doesn’t set a good example.
It’s sucks, but it was an inevitably.
Apparently I can’t even talk about how this person constantly showing up super late was a problem without them twisting it into me being un-empathetic/inconsiderate, ‘militant’, ‘inflexible’, and trying to guilt/shame me into not having boundaries about the value of my own time..
—Nevermind that when we hang out it’s almost entirely me listening to her vent about the latest bs she’s gotten herself into and I can’t comfortably share hardly anything going on in my life because she immediately radiates an envious, self-pitying sadness.
😑 FFS.. she even tried to make me feel bad for asking her to have a ‘gentle talk with her son about respecting other peoples’ property’ because the last time he came over he nonchalantly broke a gift that was special to my kiddo.
Apparently being asked that her son not to break more of my kid’s things hurt his and her feelings. 😑
I’m done.. I don’t wanna go back to being a hermit, but it’s less stressful. My partner’’s been supportive, but I can tell he’s also spent on listening to me vent about this ‘friendship’ and how it frazzled me, which is fair..
I need to wash my hands of it.
Even my 11 year old who overheard the whole disagreement with Donna joked I should block her
😬 🤷🏻♀️😅🤣
There’s truth in it though. I talk a lot about healthy friendships and boundaries with Sam. This thing with Dona doesn’t set a good example.
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