Perfect example of when emotional talk doesn’t align with what people actually care about

My buddy’s cat is missing. She calls me all upset, but rather than simply reactivate her own Fb account and be proactive about finding her cat she tries guilting me into posting ads for her. 🙄 FFS..
Cares more about not having a Facebook account and staying the victim awaiting a savior than finding the cat.
Typical. I’m just cranky right now because of the manipulativeness.

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plungesponge · 41-45, M

Setup a fake catnapper profile and "reply" to your own post demanding she pay a ransom

WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F

@plungesponge so devious 👹

WhateverWorks · 36-40

I didn’t even have to..l within a matter of minutes she’s imagined up that it was some revenge plot. I wish I was joking, but I’m not. 😅 @plungesponge

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WhateverWorks · 36-40

Oh.. I understand the tactic just fine. We’ve known each other for years. Initially (like a lot of people who know her) I would drop what I”m doing to save the day. I’m better about boundaries now that I’ve come to see the pattern. I think in this instance I was pissed last night because even after I drew a boundary she kept pushing anyway. My mother uses guilt. I have a low patience for it lol.. @jshm2

morrgin · F

Support her by listening to her. Dont offer to do for what she can do for herself. Sometimes the best help is not to help at all. (Took me forever to learn this.)

WhateverWorks · 36-40

Yeah, most of our friendship is me listening. I ended up offering a compromise of sorts. Admittedly, the compromise I offered was intentionally minimal because I was hoping she would take the reins of her own situation 🤷🏻‍♀️ @morrgin

Lilnonames · F

Do it anyway for the cat then keep the cat

WhateverWorks · 36-40

I did in a minimal compromise kind of way. We already have 2 kitties though. They would be displeased 🤣 @Lilnonames

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