why do some men not initiate

It's really frustrating. I been with my husband for four years and I can literally count on one hand how many times he's initiated. I can't help but feel a little unhappy. I have never experienced this with anyone. How do I deal with this because I am getting really fed up with my marriage.

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DaveLiam78 · 31-35, M

(Idk if you are but if you are then:) Stop watching porn, or comparing him to some hollywood conception you have of him, or how other men may treat you on here. It will help a lot. Secondly, talk to him and tell him that you want him to try xyz.

DidIHurtYourFeelings · F

I'm anti porn and would never compare him to another man. He had a porn problem and drinking problem. He screwed himself

DaveLiam78 · 31-35, M

@DidIHurtYourFeelings: Yeah he needs to cut that out and alcohol too