why do some men not initiate

It's really frustrating. I been with my husband for four years and I can literally count on one hand how many times he's initiated. I can't help but feel a little unhappy. I have never experienced this with anyone. How do I deal with this because I am getting really fed up with my marriage.

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AlmightyLoad · 26-30

could be a confidence issue

DidIHurtYourFeelings · F

Even after four years?

AlmightyLoad · 26-30

Nothing changes if you sit by

BellaLocura · 51-55, F

@DidIHurtYourFeelings: I would say that confidence is a large issue for my husband even after 16 years. Some people just have a tough time building it up and feeling secure with themselves.

AlmightyLoad · 26-30

Yeah someone people just are like that naturally not much you can do about that tho

DidIHurtYourFeelings · F

@BellaLocura: :( well I wish it would change. I mean I can't even get him to try anything I was very adventurous before him and now I'm kind of screwed because he won't even get off his back. I feel like a man lol