😞 RealTalk My kid’s ADHD stuff stresses me the fnck out....

Need to vent somewhere..Argghhhh I wish I were more patient woman. Man, I try, but the truth is that I’m not. I also barely have the bandwidth to handle my own adulting, health, standard mom’ing, and grad stuff. So many days it feels like I’m trying to put away find China while a monkey jumps around. I know Sam is trying to be more independent effectively. Effectively is the key word there though.. They’ve made a lot of progress. It’s still super stressful to have to constantly do executive functioning mishap damage control. It leaves very little mental energy for my own studies and deadlines. It makes me hesitant to take on any more additional commitments because I’m afraid I won’t be able to follow through. It puts a lot strain on our mother-daughter relationship that requires regularly making repairs. It makes me less emotionally available for my relationship with John. It makes me worry for their future, but fnck, also mine.. I worry what will happen once I am working full-time and have less hours in a day to micromanage Sam’s stuff.

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that1funnyblonde · 36-40, F

That struggle is far too real!! Both of my kids have ADHD and arent meditated because of the side effects that come with them. Theyre both really great kids, but sometimes I feel like banging my head against a wall. Ive found that seeing a counselor for impulse control has worked well, along with a few extra things weve found over the years. My daughter (14 yrs) has a notebook with her EVERYWHERE she goes and can be found doodling in it even during class. Of course it always starts as a thing, but that's when she gets the upper hand by proving shes paying attention still. They let it go after that. My son 10 yrs) has been a little harder. For him its kinda boiled down to rewarding good behavior versus punishment for bad behavior. I put them both in MMA too. Its given them an outlet for all that energy and theyre worked HARD after a particularly bad, long and stressful day! Turns out theyre actually really good at it too.

WhateverWorks · 36-40

Envious that you’re finding a system that works. We’ve tried a number of techniques / tools over the years with meh results 😅 Hard to get Sam to really care about anything for me to offer rewards and they are indifferent to punishments. That kid is too damn adaptive lol @that1funnyblonde

that1funnyblonde · 36-40, F

@WhateverWorks Mom guilt is a thing and hard AF to ignore, but you're doing an absolutely phenomenal job if you feel like you're not!!!