It’s funny how long some things take

It’s taken me a long time to fully embrace that it is more important to be treated well and valued than to ’have a connection’. It matters more than history, more than the years that flow by, more than the ‘good sometimes’. Today, almost 20 years later, I finally drew some lines with this friend.
Today I finally put my foot down that I expect them to put effort into the friendship or don’t bother calling anymore only when it’s convenient.
—I do not exist to fill peoples’ empty spaces, Metaphorically or literally.
— if I understand them better than anybody then they need to learn to treat me like I matter or piss off.