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CharlesRomsey · 61-69, M
No relationship is going to change whilst you're so full of angst. Ignore the negatives that you are bombarded with, and concentrate on becoming a less fractured soul. Do not allow any negative action or speech invade. Recognise that you are a perfect creation. This should be emanated in your actions. Why did you lose your last job? You need to contribute to the whole planet by working: find what you are good at. Embrace it, and you will find self fulfilment.
bittersweethermit · 36-40, F
@CharlesRomsey I understand, I know I'm miserable but I've been dealing with my family's abuse for as long as I can remember, I'm the family scapegoat. Also, this isn't the first job that I lost. I keep losing jobs since in my 20s each for different reasons. I'm estranged with my family and I live with them, and their abuse has already taken it's toll on me. I can't seem to escape no matter what I do, nothing works.
CharlesRomsey · 61-69, M
@bittersweethermit Do you enjoy being the victim? It is beginning to sound to me that you do. If you want to break out, you better do it NOW. Otherwise, you'll be the lonely ol' spinster looking after aged parents who don't appreciate you, but expect your undying servitude.
bittersweethermit · 36-40, F
@CharlesRomsey I already made it clear to them, I'm not taking care of them, my golden child brother will. And I'm not playing the victim, this is all my experience with them. In fact, the victim card is my mom's schtick. I'm only stating the things happening in my life, and mind you, I don't know who else to tell this who can actually empathize. I'm sorry that you can't put your shoes on mine. This is exactly the reason I can't share my situation to just anyone who has never been in this situation due to lack of understanding and that's majority of the world
❤️ You will be ok 🙂. First take a day to take care of yourself, take a walk, treat yourself to a nice lunch, etc. And remember when God closes a door he opens a window. Remember Maria in Sound of Music was fired too, she was in the wrong business being a nun. Go and find your future!
What is happening is maybe a good thing because maybe you need a change and a new job anyway. I believe having our own business is the way to go for many, definitely for me. There are so many jobs that you don't need a lot of education for.
You can have your own business contracting with agencies. How about working for yourself as an emergency road service worker, insurances will pay you like Geiko etc. or real estate agent, or appraiser, or notary public title signer (55K a year and only one class needed) or financial planner, or work at a hospital as an x-ray tech ( 80K a year)
Hang in there, go and get a job where you can live by yourself. We can't change people in our families, but we can love them and that can make a big difference!
Please keep us posted,
🙏
What is happening is maybe a good thing because maybe you need a change and a new job anyway. I believe having our own business is the way to go for many, definitely for me. There are so many jobs that you don't need a lot of education for.
You can have your own business contracting with agencies. How about working for yourself as an emergency road service worker, insurances will pay you like Geiko etc. or real estate agent, or appraiser, or notary public title signer (55K a year and only one class needed) or financial planner, or work at a hospital as an x-ray tech ( 80K a year)
Hang in there, go and get a job where you can live by yourself. We can't change people in our families, but we can love them and that can make a big difference!
Please keep us posted,
🙏
bittersweethermit · 36-40, F
@Carazaa Having my own business was one of my original ideas but my family kept discouraging me for years about it calling me "lazy, and not a people-person, so you can't be successful" so I never went through with it. I'm already losing hope, and really hit rock bottom this time but your kind words just made my day. I needed this. Thank you so much ❤️
CountScrofula · 41-45, M
The fact you need to get out of home is very, very clear here. The job market is shit, there's jobs but they don't pay much, and living with a classic narcissist mother is hell on earth.
You need to figure out your escape plan and that could involve a drastic life change such as moving to an area where you can afford to live on your own.
Is there a common pattern in why you're losing your jobs? Like what reason has been given?
You need to figure out your escape plan and that could involve a drastic life change such as moving to an area where you can afford to live on your own.
Is there a common pattern in why you're losing your jobs? Like what reason has been given?
bittersweethermit · 36-40, F
@CountScrofula Like I mentioned, I realized that I don't like any jobs, or even enjoy it. I usually start out fine in a job as I'm a quick learner, but I get bored eventually, and that's when my performance suffers. The other reason is I had co-workers and managers who don't like me sabotage me in the past, and what happened recently isn't the first time. It's just much hurtful this time because it didn't came straight from my supervisor but from someone I don't know, and the fact that they made me feel welcome to the company with all the false promises
updown2020 · 61-69, M
Well the equipment guy is not your boss or supervisor so why are you believe him? I would show up to work tomorrow and if your supervisor say anything well you just be polite and say you are my boss not the equipment guy.
bittersweethermit · 36-40, F
@updown2020 It was a work from home and the equipment had to be picked up. I was already fired by then without me knowing. It sucks