One of the bitter realities of adulthood is that friendship is often fleeting or sits kind in the peripheral

I feel like there’s this elephant in the room my gender is hesitant to acknowledge, which is that the whole ‘strong, single, independent woman’ thing is often a lonely road. Sure, we can say that there are lots of different kinds of connections out there other than just life partnership, which is fair.

There’s this ‘ I don’t need a relationship. I’ve got friends‘ thing.

I definitely agree that lots of relationships don’t work out and surely people shouldn’t be prioritizing boyfriends who are lousy at the friend part over your solid friends.

Still.. after late 20’s, definitely 30’s you start to notice everyone is busy living their life, your dearest friends included. (Almost) nobody is making important life decisions ‘with’ their friends in mind. People don’t turn down an amazing job or new house two states over because they wouldn’t be able to hang out with their friends anymore. Let’s say dating comes into the picture. People don’t refuse to move across the country for their husband’s work because they’d be far away from their buddies. Very rarely do people buy houses with their friends or some other kind of more permanent living situation plan to share/distribute the labors of daily living.

i’ve met a lot of women who talk about friendship as if it’s supplemental to the team are aspects of a marriage, but it’s not. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m not suggesting everyone should runoff and get married or stay in bad marriages, but I am bored of this false equivocal and the shaming of other women for not staying in tune like ‘ masochistically independent‘ is desirable.