It’s not a bad thing to want financial stability, dare I say, financial comfort for my child when they are an adult lol

SuzzieMoonbeam getting all judge-y assuming just because I’m comfortable talking about jobs and how money works with my kid means I’m teaching them money is more important than finding themselves or happiness, or that it must mean I’m unsupportive of who they want to be.

Pffftt. It’s not one or the other Moonbeam. 🤨

I don’t know what you’re telling your kid Moonbeam, but when we talk about dreams it’s doing research on what to expect of that career path and what it involves to be financially sustainably successful doing that thing.

But hell no, I don’t vaguely tell them they can be whatever they want to be and I’m absolutely not going to romanticize living low income as if money doesn’t matter.

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NoahB · 26-30, M

lol my parents had the same philosophy. They weren't very supportive of my creative endeavors as a career. Which I resented them for when I was younger. But as an adult I think I've found a pretty happy medium balancing my passions with my professional life. So I have them to thank for that

WhateverWorks · 36-40

I’m totally supportive of whatever my kid wants to do, but I have no intentions of BSing them about the pragmatics to it or what life will throw at them financially as they progress in life-phases @NoahB

NoahB · 26-30, M

@WhateverWorks yeah that was exactly my parents thinking. Let me just warn you, it will sound like you are not supportive at all from the kids perspective for a while.
I didn't think my parents supported me at all for a long time. but I kept going for it and at some point I think I proved myself to them and they started being alot cooler with me going to school for what I wanted to go to school for

WhateverWorks · 36-40

Oh, I know. It’s a tricky balance to not come off as nagging or seeming negative. I hope I can balance that out by being very encouraging when they demonstrate their interests and taking Sam to events that align with whatever they’re curious about. I’m always quick to buy them supplies and books on the topic. I try to find mentors in those positions were open to talking to Sam about how they got there and what their job is realistically like on the day to day. I offer to find them classes to develop the interest and volunteer opportunities.

@NoahB