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Eidolon · M
I've had a few racial encounters... it doesn't seem to let up as you get older.
I remember having to work weekends...
and I was the only non-white in the team on site.
the senior manager will come around asking everyone what they want to drink... coffee, tea, cuppa... etc as he is buying.
He then leaves to get the drinks while we're all working.
Break time arrives, and we leave the 'war room' (the room where we work in), and then go to a break room.
Every one else is sipping their drink of choice, plus enjoying biscuits.
and here I am, witnessing how the 'spare' coffee was giving to a visitor who wasn't even there in the morning (when we ordered our drinks). Essentially the visitor was given my coffee.
The manager doesn't apologise to me... he doesn't even acknowledge what he did. No no, I should obviously be more understanding.
It's always that 'subtle little extra' that always does you in.
He just grabs the biscuits/cookies packet, and then wiggles it at me... like I'm some caged animal that will be content with a cookie over the coffee that I had ordered.
It's not about the coffee really. It's the principle. You know?
I remember having to work weekends...
and I was the only non-white in the team on site.
the senior manager will come around asking everyone what they want to drink... coffee, tea, cuppa... etc as he is buying.
He then leaves to get the drinks while we're all working.
Break time arrives, and we leave the 'war room' (the room where we work in), and then go to a break room.
Every one else is sipping their drink of choice, plus enjoying biscuits.
and here I am, witnessing how the 'spare' coffee was giving to a visitor who wasn't even there in the morning (when we ordered our drinks). Essentially the visitor was given my coffee.
The manager doesn't apologise to me... he doesn't even acknowledge what he did. No no, I should obviously be more understanding.
It's always that 'subtle little extra' that always does you in.
He just grabs the biscuits/cookies packet, and then wiggles it at me... like I'm some caged animal that will be content with a cookie over the coffee that I had ordered.
It's not about the coffee really. It's the principle. You know?
Eidolon · M
@ihavenoone Thank you. Personally, I do not wish any ills on the ignorantly racist manager guy. When you've been the target of such things so often, you tend to develop thicker skin.
🇿🇦 South African, born and raised. Bear in mind that we're still in the shadow of apartheid... and there's still the 'reverse apartheid' that we face nowadays. (Previously wasn't white enough, nowadays not black enough.)
Who-is-right and what-is-fair is very centered around when you start the timeline.
Truth be told, I can't see a world where we can 'just be' without being so influenced on whence we came from.
🇿🇦 South African, born and raised. Bear in mind that we're still in the shadow of apartheid... and there's still the 'reverse apartheid' that we face nowadays. (Previously wasn't white enough, nowadays not black enough.)
Who-is-right and what-is-fair is very centered around when you start the timeline.
Truth be told, I can't see a world where we can 'just be' without being so influenced on whence we came from.
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Eidolon · M
@KiwiBird Not at all. I'm still working the same job. The reality is that this will be experienced in any other job as well. It's not so much the job, but some people... and our country's history.
The good part though is that I've been working from home these past 2 years - so I don't get to interact with the people face-to-face.
Depending on where you are in the world, these type of things become everyday norms. It might outrage someone who isn't familiar with it, but people who are victims of these racially fuelled superiority complexes, they cope with the familiarity.
The good part though is that I've been working from home these past 2 years - so I don't get to interact with the people face-to-face.
Depending on where you are in the world, these type of things become everyday norms. It might outrage someone who isn't familiar with it, but people who are victims of these racially fuelled superiority complexes, they cope with the familiarity.
Eidolon · M
@KiwiBird you kinda have no choice. If you let it affect you, then 'they' win.
People will be people. You're bound to encounter a power-struggle in one way or another, you just have to keep your wits about on why you're there, and let that primary purpose be your driving factor.
As human beings, I believe that one of the most sinister, yet undeniable, trait that renders us top-of-the-food-chain is our inherent nature of enforcing our will onto others.
Sad, but true. 🤷♂️
People will be people. You're bound to encounter a power-struggle in one way or another, you just have to keep your wits about on why you're there, and let that primary purpose be your driving factor.
As human beings, I believe that one of the most sinister, yet undeniable, trait that renders us top-of-the-food-chain is our inherent nature of enforcing our will onto others.
Sad, but true. 🤷♂️