How to get over the fears and worries..

I have so many worries which make me afraid. The worries are mostly related to future, will I get a job.. will I get a gf.. will I be settled and have kids?
So far (till my Masters and Ph.D) I always ignored those questions and lived in the present. I always was a good student with good grades because I never worried.. I always enjoyed doing whatever work I am doing and gave my 110% attention to it.
Now at the age of 30, I cannot live like I used to do. Although I am doing similar work that I did during my ph.d, I seem I do not like these works anymore. I do not like doing anything (work or fun). I am always tangled with these future thoughts, feels like my life will end without any good choice.
How can I stop worrying and enjoy my present doing whatever I loved to do.

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Amaryllisflowers · 26-30, F

Think about it like this. We live and we die. Whatever happens between then is only for a short amount of time, you could die tomorrow. No wife, no job and no kids. Worrying is natural so I won't take that from you. What I'm trying to say is that whatever happens in your life will happen regardless if you worry about it or not. It makes no sense worrying if we don't even know if we will live to see the next second or not. So be happy and take everything on a second to second basis. Make the most of it because if you find a wife you'll start to worry about kids, then about money, about their future and it'll just continue. 💃

FindRyhan · 36-40, M

wow.. you explained it so nicely.. yes.. new worries will keep coming when old worries are gone.. :D
I'll try to think like this when I worry.. so that the current worries will be 'less to worry about' :D