Advice please ?

Really I just feel like venting, give me some advice please lol so I will be turning 24 shortly, the past 5 years of my life I was in a relationship with a guy who was not good for me and held me back a lot, I went out with him/we went on a date maybe a total of 15 times in those 5years.... We broke up a year and a half a go so About 6 years total now because we’ve been talking since We broke up and fighting omg anyways I finally blocked him today because I can’t deal with his shit anymore. But yeah I barley ever went out while we were together definitely not with friends and once in a blue moon with him lol and it has made me so antisocial and shy when I never used to be like this.. mind you I have had daily weed habit For the past 3 years. I have one friend who I’ve had since we were 11 years old, we’ve been through so much together, one time we have gone almost three years without talking but we always seem to reconnect, she is like a sister to me. She has 2 toddlers now, who I love with my whole heart. I’m so proud of the mom she is but I can’t help and miss the old days sometimes and being able to just go out whenever and wherever or go party or clubbing without having to be back early idk what I mean is not having to worry about anything but yourself lol I don’t have kids yet and I still would like to do that Idk but I’m so anti social and Almost closed off to other friendships even though I do want that. What should I do? I find it so hard making new friends LOL just had to get it off my chest.. I have no one to vent to :(

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Threepio

A lot depends upon where you live...

Without getting high first, put on a mask, go for a walk and make a point to tell everyone you pass "Hi, how are you?" You'll get short responses IE "I'm fine, and you?"

But what it does is starts to break your shell (the antisocial/shy).

Again, depending upon where you live... and without getting high first...
VOLUNTEER - I prefer the local food bank, it is fun and very flexible. You'll meet people there and friendships often form from volunteering.

Weed: smoking when you wake up is demotivating. Save the weed smoking for when you have arrived home from a productive day. Look at it as a reward. Whether it is working or volunteering. You'll save money on your habit too..by simply not using so much quantity through the day...

The dude... Your description of 'dating' leads me to believe that you are nothing more than a convenient "booty call" to him. And if you are not having sex, then you are just a "convenient listener" when he wants to bitch. You mentioned "kids" (w/idk)… the advice I usually give is "don't date someone that cannot provide for you and a kid"... cause sometimes 'accidents' happen.

You are not going to meet any QUALITY dating material sitting at home getting baked. So go volunteer somewhere and see where it leads you...

If you put effort into it you WILL be surprised what is out there.