Angry, what to do now?

I'm sorry if this may sound terrible, but right there the very first lines are that she feels she can't tell you anything because of how you'll react and your first reaction is you're angry. I mean, who doesn't want to leave from work rather quickly and what's wrong with being quiet? I may not be reading it correctly, but that's how it came across to me. If I'm wrong, I apologize.

I'm also sorry that you're going through a great deal right now with the divorce and all, it's never easy or pleasant. I've been there myself, but the fact that she has crohns is a huge deal. She needs a stable work schedule and though you're dealing with a great many things, this is something I feel you should address. She's your employee, get past everything else, that's what she is and it's your responsibility to set things straight and right. You're lucky she doesn't leave for some other job as I know many, including myself, that wouldn't keep working for anyone that didn't also take in to account my needs as their employee.

It's great that she was there for you when you were at your worst, but maybe you should try to be there for her as well. I'm not saying either of you are being childish or wrong, just things need to be put into proper perspective. I can't say she's being childish when all she want's is some stability just like you. I wish you the best though and hope things can get worked out for the best.

An employee, like a babysitter or nanny, is a working situation. Very few people will stay at a job with sporadic last minute hours to work or an employer who questions their motives.

I wouldn't work for parents who couldn't decide if I was going to have work on specific days or not.

from what I read she's in the right