Giving Parental care or self care... which one is difficult

If you mean taking care of kids verses self
Kids are more fun ,if you raise them right

Taking care of an ill or dying parent is the toughest job there is
thats why so many end up in nursing homes
Its a full time job that requires help

Single Mom and Dads raise kids by themselves all the time

But caring for an elderly person that can no longer do for themselves
You need help ,and a break sometimes ,or they will bury you too

Not sure if thats what you meant ,you're young ,hopefully you don't know about being a care giver yet
but I helped take care of a dying grandma that finally passed when I was 12

So you may know

But when you teach you're kids to mind ,manners and respect
things that are no no's until they kind of help with themselves
thats not so hard ,,well until they become teens and try you
turn into know it alls
but I miss having little ones around myself
I miss my parents too ,,I don't miss having to care for them knowing I am going to at some point have to let them go

At least you're kids come to visit if you did it right
and if you're real blessed ,they will care for you and not put you in a nursing home ,and sell you're place and go on a cruise