Should I back away?

My ex-husband who I’m still friends with, is very sick and has been in the hospital for six weeks. He will never walk again and he will have to be placed in a long-term care. We have been divorced for many years and I have still kept in touch with him. He doesn’t have anyone but me and his sister to assist him, he does have two daughters but they are useless. Should I continue to be his friend and help his sister during his illness and placement or should I back out of this since I am his ex-wife? He is only 63 years old. I don’t want to be his care taker. I want to live my own life.

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MushroomFaerie

Oh no! I'm so sorry, that's a horrible situation. I don't believe you can find the right answers here from a bunch of strangers. I think you need to listen to your gut instincts. One hand you could end up a care taker, the other you could feel guilt & regret. The poor guy is suffering and has no one to help, its heartbreaking. If you can find a way to be there for him without being roped in to full time caring, you just need to stay aware at all times. If he is your friend he should understand that but leaving him on his own to struggle is honestly heartbreaking. If you think you can have an open honest convo with his daughters then that might help?
I wish you and your ex all the best 💞

Mbingh01 · 61-69, F

@MushroomFaerie thank you, I’m trying to do that. Both his daughters are deeply involved in drugs, so they are no help. I won’t totally back away, but I have to draw the line.

MushroomFaerie

@Mbingh01 you sound like a caring and strong person. You can give a certain amount and keep the rest for yourself, he will understand I'm sure as your still friends 🤗

Mbingh01 · 61-69, F

@MushroomFaerie you are a sweetheart.❤️