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Do you think it’s better to find someone to be in a relationship with or wait for the right person to come into your life?

rckt148 · 61-69, M
I have been waiting for the right one 7 yrs
Its like when I quit doing drugs
then everyone wanted to share the good stuff with me
buy me free drinks
Now I am the one making excuses for why I am not interested
greenmountaingal · 70-79, F
What are your motives? Are you looking to marry? Or do you just want some fun and companionship? Either way, you will need to make some effort. Being passive about it usually doesn't work. Knowing what you are looking for helps. Don't waste your time on relationships with people who don't meet your needs.
Adelina · 46-50, F
I’m not planning to get married again or have another child, so I’m thinking that waiting is probably the best for me. Every time I look for a relationship it ends up as a disaster. @greenmountaingal
SW-User
Enjoy your life, stop depending on other people but if you have a natural chemistry with someone, someone who doesn't require too much effort from you to deliver the perfect image of relationship they have then go for it
Magenta · F
I think neither. Idealism of love or a person is some unattainable fantasy. Settling isn't good either.
Guess, just be open to it, let it be natural. One never knows who may walk around the next corner.
SW-User
rather wait for someone worth it than just settle just to be in a relationship
Travelbug · 56-60, F
It's hard to answer that. I was happy alone and then a man I took an instant dislike to pursued me, and in the end we did fall on love and to cut a long story short, after 15 years we are very happy
rckt148 · 61-69, M
@Travelbug I was happy for 8 ,we were happy ,she talked me into trying to have a son ,I had 3 girls from another marriage
Then a botched "c" section ,5 months of wound therapy and she fell back in love with the drugs it took me years to get her off of
the next 7 yrs were hell
When she picked drugs over our son and I , refused to go back to rehab ,,enough was enough

Now she posts on face Book ,its better to raise a child alone then with a man who mentally and physically abuses you

She found out everyone knows the truth ,,everyone told her about her butt
She was the one that was mean and abusive .to our son too
I waited on her hand and foot and a dying Mom ,,
I will be alone when Christ comes before I ever go through that again

Glad to hear you are happy ,my daughter had a man keep chasing her she didn't like ,,now they are very happy
He calls me Dad ,,He is like a son ,,love him to death
she still calls him "Stalker "
I honestly don't know. They say it's better to wait, but If I wait any longer, I'll still be single when I'm 50.
SW-User
There's nothing wrong with looking if you are ready for it. Give it a helping hand.
Set s high bar and be patient
SW-User
Don't look for it.
SailorMarz · F
I'm all for waiting for the right person. But if you see someone that catches your eye, even if you think that maybe it won't work out lol. DO IT!!

It builds character and will help you figure out what you actually want and need from a relationship.
pedrohedgerow · 61-69, M
I would rather try than wait around doing nothing.
Human1000 · M
Waiting for the perfect person is a horrible idea, and will doom u to failure.
rckt148 · 61-69, M
@Human1000 no doom is wasting 15 yrs on someone
and have her rip your heart out
they said 3 was a charm ,,they lied ,,
now I will be patient ,or happy alone
I had a chance for a lot of good girls ,,but NO LOYAL ME
Not giving up on someone who had given up on herself

Won't be repeating that mistake again
I've always thought that just finding someone (anyone) with whom to be in a relationship is self-defeating if it's [b]not[/b] the right one. But then, I also believe there's more than one "right one" out there, meaning a partner with whom you could be happy.

 
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