What do you think is primarily behind people's hypocritical stance on sexuality?

Except for the maybe 1% that are asexual, or obvious stances like "Children present", "not with you" etc. Are there any reasons that make sense? Some possibilities:
a) Don't want to be hit on by everybody, so will only be hit on by horny toads who don't respect anyone's personal boundaries,
b) Desire to save potential partners to oneself by insisting nobody should be sexual,
c) Belief it's against religion, but yield to temptation when it's sinful enough,
d) Don't want to hurt someone's feelings, say it's about being virtuous but then get it on with another person,
e) Desire to be considered one of the maybe 1% of people who aren't interested in sex, then get hitched with someone who actually isn't,
f) Desire to end humankind by stopping human reproduction,
g) Societal pressure to be "nice person" or playing hard to get but people do this when there seems to be no benefit.
Not putting up a poll because I'm hoping people will actually discuss this, that isn't exhaustive list by any means, but I don't actually know to what degree anybody is influenced by any of them.

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DragonFruit · 70-79, M

I think that some of these definitely fall into the “spirit is willing but the flesh is weak” category.
One tries to be a good person and rise above temptation, but the lure of temptation can be very powerful.
Trying to be virtuous can work when the other person has some desire to be virtuous as well.....but when the other person is horny enough and persistent enough, they can wear down resistance of one who’s trying to be “good".
It’s pretty much an attempt to overcome human nature to try to be a "good person” when deep down you’re smoldering with sexual desire.....people try to do what they think is the right thing, but the pull in the opposite direction can be strong.

Faust76 · 46-50, M

@DragonFruit My temptation is to be the devil's advocate. I think that sounds like a good summary, but in fact talking to people it seems almost everybody would like to have sex, just with the right person. And obviously that's what being a human is largely about.

I think the answer is more akin to "Why do people end up sexual with the 'wrong' people", although there's huge overlap. Except that also raises the question of what is 'wrong'.

But yeah I guess that's "They have a strongly held belief about how sexuality should be, but then they give in to baser urges", which is something everybody has experience with and rings true, though it's bit simplistic and broad explanation. (What kind of beliefs are those? What are the urges they give in to? Doesn't envy of other people's happiness play any part?)

Northwest · M

Religion. One of the things I learned from being anonymous online, is that people tend to share how they truly feel, especially about how they present themselves publicly, when it comes to sex, completely suppressing what makes them happy. It's such a waste, going through life, missing out on what one wants.

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