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I can't tell you to be happy with your body because that would help nothing. I just have one question, why don't you try to lose some weights?
SW-User
First, understand the issue stems primarily from your family but is reinforced each and ever day hundreds of times through media, sometimes so subtly you're not even conscious of it.
Your family acted out of ignorance or misplaced beauty standards. Let that be their failing, not yours.
It sounds like you have an unhealthy relationship with food, depression and a history of family strife that has created self-worth issues. This can be a very complicated issue, particularly when family conflict is an element.
Your are such a perfect candidate for some positive counseling; you could benefit from a shift in perspective, some healing and real techniques and feedback regarding weight. Possibly also an antidepressant, at least for a short period of time. You're not crazy, you're not terribly ill, there's nothing wrong with you; but the benefit of another's perspective can be powerful.
You may also want to look into a group like Overeaters Anonymous (OA). Don't be put off by that; if nothing else, it's a gathering of people from all walks of life you have and are experiencing the very same emotions you are. You deserve to be understood, comforted, supported and inspired. I would stay away from something like Weight Watchers, as they tend to place sole focus on food and calories; that can be dangerous for women under some circumstances. You might like a more holistic, all-encompassing approach.
Good luck and know this. You are perfect. Right now, right at this moment and for always. There will always be things we want to change and that's okay, but know that you have within you everything you need to find your way.
Your family acted out of ignorance or misplaced beauty standards. Let that be their failing, not yours.
It sounds like you have an unhealthy relationship with food, depression and a history of family strife that has created self-worth issues. This can be a very complicated issue, particularly when family conflict is an element.
Your are such a perfect candidate for some positive counseling; you could benefit from a shift in perspective, some healing and real techniques and feedback regarding weight. Possibly also an antidepressant, at least for a short period of time. You're not crazy, you're not terribly ill, there's nothing wrong with you; but the benefit of another's perspective can be powerful.
You may also want to look into a group like Overeaters Anonymous (OA). Don't be put off by that; if nothing else, it's a gathering of people from all walks of life you have and are experiencing the very same emotions you are. You deserve to be understood, comforted, supported and inspired. I would stay away from something like Weight Watchers, as they tend to place sole focus on food and calories; that can be dangerous for women under some circumstances. You might like a more holistic, all-encompassing approach.
Good luck and know this. You are perfect. Right now, right at this moment and for always. There will always be things we want to change and that's okay, but know that you have within you everything you need to find your way.
Menaa8D · 26-30, F
The thing is it's never been the media, it's always been my family that instilled in my head that being fat is bad. I don't agree with it now, but that doesn't change the way I feel about myself. I can't wait for the day that this will be in the back of my head, just a distant memory.
LucyFuhr · 56-60, F
Menaa8D...It was family for me too.
At my father's wake, my mother still felt the need to remind me NOT to overeat. I was 46 yrs old and weighed just over 80 lbs at the time.
Try to ignore it as best you can. They're wrestling their own demons and projecting onto you.
First of all, you need to deal with your body image. Figure out what YOUR ideal is and then make a plan to achieve it.
As far as school and your debt goes, you don't want to end up working in fast food for the rest of your life. If going back to school is not an option, are there any apprenticeship programs available to you?
At my father's wake, my mother still felt the need to remind me NOT to overeat. I was 46 yrs old and weighed just over 80 lbs at the time.
Try to ignore it as best you can. They're wrestling their own demons and projecting onto you.
First of all, you need to deal with your body image. Figure out what YOUR ideal is and then make a plan to achieve it.
As far as school and your debt goes, you don't want to end up working in fast food for the rest of your life. If going back to school is not an option, are there any apprenticeship programs available to you?
AngelKrish · 26-30, M
AngelKrish · 26-30, M
If you wanted something you can do....job also.. Pt jobs too..if you like.. Or jobs in your interest of fields.. :)
SoundHound · 56-60, M
well first of all Menna, don't listen to the worlds view of "weight" because it's more than very vain and skewed. 2ndly, how does your bf treat you and speak into your life.
In the midst of this something tells me you have a pretty strong inner drive. You need to reconnect with it
In the midst of this something tells me you have a pretty strong inner drive. You need to reconnect with it