Is it new friends or something else on his end?

So im 17 a girl, and on my Instagram there's a guy that is 23 that has been messaging me. we live in different countries. I dont mind it because i like talking to him and meeting new people. We have been messaging back and forth for a month or so now. and we are getting to know each other a lot every day. I like him as a friend. but im not sure if he feels the same. He always asks for pictures of me (not nudes) and always tells me how beautiful I am. And he tells me all the time he wants to meet me. so im guessing im asking what do you think he is feeling. Like just friends or something more than that. I can't figure it out bc the guys where i live are very straight forward and if they act like this then they usually like you.

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kyky16 · 22-25, F

Also let me add that I look older than my age. Most people both boys and girls think im 19. So i dont think he was purposely preying on a minor. He did ask me how old i was and when he found out he was shocked and told me he thought i was older. At first our conversations were really basic but we found common interests. I also don't think he would push me to do anything i don't feel like doing. Being that ive told him no i wasnt sending a pic and he was completely fine with that. He's more religious than most so the whole nudes and all that wont be asked from him bc he follows his religion and take it to the heart.

inflatablebimbo · 31-35, F

@kyky16
1. Your age doesn’t matter
2. Him being religious makes all of this much worse.

inflatablebimbo · 31-35, F

If he follows his religion and takes it to heart and is Christian, Jewish or Muslim, taking it to heart means he is trying to own you, and not entirely in a fun way. That’s pretty much the whole point of religion: I tell you what to do, you have no fun.

kyky16 · 22-25, F

@inflatablebimbo I was saying i looked older because someone said hes preying on a minor. so i was clarifying that i dont look like a minor. I don't think being religious makes this worse. I think bc he is religious he would not cross the line of asking for sexual stuff and things like that.

kyky16 · 22-25, F

@inflatablebimbo i disagree with that. Just because you take a religion to heart doesn't mean you want to own people. We have detailed conversations about my own dreams. as well as his dreams and what he wants to pursue in life. I cant stay in one place in life. I get bored of the same place pretty fast. Ive opened up about that and we laugh about it and just have careless conversations about everything. Even when annoying little boys (my age) try to get in my pants and stuff. He is there and listens to what i have to say. And trys his best to give advice. I know I probably sound like i am defending him but I really don't know if he likes me as just a friend or not. I don't have a problem is he likes me more than a friend because i have liked guys that are older than me. Did it go anywhere? No bc i have morals and go with what i believe.

SW-User

@kyky16 if hes willing to wait and doesn't act pervy, then it's fine. However, be cautious. If he asks for more suggestive stuff, it's time to draw the line.

Tell him to just act Platonic. If not, cut him off.

inflatablebimbo · 31-35, F

@kyky16 okay fair enough, just my experience with religious people.
Listen to @SW-User. Ultimately this guy is going to ask you to use your own money to fly to him and I guess that’s when you really have a choice to make!