Why does my wife object to me having grown a beard when she hardly ever kisses me?
Seems a bit unreasonable to me :-/
61-69, M
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might be she has had some bad experience with other men who have beards
or she is not as attracted to you with facial hair
at the end of the day this is choice and consequence
and if the love is strong enough it should not be as big of a deal
the key will always be communication between 2
no message board online will honestly know what is going on within the relationship as much as you 2
or she is not as attracted to you with facial hair
at the end of the day this is choice and consequence
and if the love is strong enough it should not be as big of a deal
the key will always be communication between 2
no message board online will honestly know what is going on within the relationship as much as you 2
Cheesecake · 61-69, M
@iQuit we don't exactly excel at that.
I had more of a beard when we first got together 24 years ago. When I shaved it off, she didn't even notice on our journey into work - I had to point it out!
She tells me she doesn't like faces being hidden or obscured. First I've heard :-/
I had more of a beard when we first got together 24 years ago. When I shaved it off, she didn't even notice on our journey into work - I had to point it out!
She tells me she doesn't like faces being hidden or obscured. First I've heard :-/
iQuit · F
@Cheesecake Sometimes people really aren't focused on small details. Personally we might notice these differences because we made effort to bring about that change but others are busy with things that take up their attention that they focus on changing.
Life is that way, doesn't mean that person doesn't care for you or love you. Just means sometimes we all get caught up in things and make them more than they should. For example, sometimes a woman will buy somethings special so her partner will notice but he doesn't. Is this a big deal not really but it can escalate if one takes mind to it. As long as both are happy and no one makes complaint of a serious issue that derails the relationship then it should be fine.
Your beard is but an extension of your self-expression and with or without you are you and your actions and words are what attracted her towards you. When years come and both grow old it's these words and actions that will build on and create memories. You'll see how the little things aren't that big when other things will come along and show you how she did care and really loves you through her own means.
Life is that way, doesn't mean that person doesn't care for you or love you. Just means sometimes we all get caught up in things and make them more than they should. For example, sometimes a woman will buy somethings special so her partner will notice but he doesn't. Is this a big deal not really but it can escalate if one takes mind to it. As long as both are happy and no one makes complaint of a serious issue that derails the relationship then it should be fine.
Your beard is but an extension of your self-expression and with or without you are you and your actions and words are what attracted her towards you. When years come and both grow old it's these words and actions that will build on and create memories. You'll see how the little things aren't that big when other things will come along and show you how she did care and really loves you through her own means.
Cheesecake · 61-69, M
@iQuit thank you for your very considered response. I appreciate it.
Certainly some food for thought there.
Unfortunately hers is an extremely "arm's length" kind of love, whereas mine is very tactile and physical. And I'm talking about ordinary day to day intimacy here, not sex. That's a whole other issue.
We know each other very well after 24 years together - but she's not great at talking about difficult personal issues and I tend to steer clear of things I know will upset her.
In a way the beard is symbolic of my dissatisfaction - and maybe subconsciously I'm hoping it will act as a catalyst.
And I do happen to like it :-/
Certainly some food for thought there.
Unfortunately hers is an extremely "arm's length" kind of love, whereas mine is very tactile and physical. And I'm talking about ordinary day to day intimacy here, not sex. That's a whole other issue.
We know each other very well after 24 years together - but she's not great at talking about difficult personal issues and I tend to steer clear of things I know will upset her.
In a way the beard is symbolic of my dissatisfaction - and maybe subconsciously I'm hoping it will act as a catalyst.
And I do happen to like it :-/