Remembering a creepy experience from 3 years ago..

I've often spoke about this guy.... he was a nuisance from the start. We had been talking and I mistakenly thought it was friendship. Upon finding out I had a bf (I lied) this guy threw a strop. To make up for it he bought me a box of chocolates and claimed he would give them me when my boyfriend wasn't there.

In the end he reckoned he gave them to the bar staff who were grateful whilst adding that that was the correct response (typical manipulation he did a lot)

Weird looking back, why behave like that? If I had a boyfriend why bother? Perhaps the chocolates were laced with sedatives.

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userfawkes1105

I got a bit confused the bf was a lie in the begining of the story and at the end there was remote for having a fake boyfriend?? I'm curious though did you remain friends after that? Sounds like you acted this was out of mercy for his feelings and ur friendship. You did your best.

PaleandPolluted · 36-40, F

@userfawkes1105 what happened after was 2 years of him pretending to be my friend whilst subtly trying to (in my mind) break me down.

https://similarworlds.com/thoughts/4124193-I-attract-predators-as-you-all-know-This-one-I

Then when he got desperate enough because he was turning 40 and still single he started trying to date me again, claiming he had never asked once. It's confusing.

userfawkes1105

@PaleandPolluted most likely you were hoping for the best hoping to have a friend while he always saw you as an opportunity. Not in a creepy way but maybe he didn't have many opposite sex friends and grew fond of you. Although after reading ur post I can see why he was still single at 40.

PaleandPolluted · 36-40, F

@userfawkes1105 he mistook me talking to him as something more... or just tries it with anyone. Was literally zero sexual chemistry. I think I was carefully picked for the manipulation tactics. He underestimated my intelligence though.. thought he could go straight into grooming.

Never met anyone as bad as that.

userfawkes1105

@PaleandPolluted some guys can be predators this way. Watch out while some even knowing right from wrong will do obscene thing out of desperation or lack of remorse I hope he changes his ways and that since then you made better friends sorry that happened to you. Through it all sounds like he was desperate to have you.

PaleandPolluted · 36-40, F

@userfawkes1105 No just saw a good victim.

userfawkes1105

@PaleandPolluted that's horrible truly sorry hope one-day he's fades away from ur memories.

PaleandPolluted · 36-40, F

@userfawkes1105 he did until...

https://similarworlds.com/relationships/4384760-Theres-a-person-who-puts-crying-reactions-to-my

userfawkes1105

@PaleandPolluted I rejected before it's hard he might be broken still...I had to learn sometimes they just aren't for you. Not ur fault this is one of those. As men our egos hold onto the fantasy of what could have been. The frustration for me came from her not seeing what I imagined of us together... Again not ur fault he got carried away he kinda pushed himself away more and more. We kick ourselves for this.

PaleandPolluted · 36-40, F

@userfawkes1105 i get all that but this where the negging and digs confuse me. He seemed to have difficulty giving me a straight compliment.

userfawkes1105

@PaleandPolluted maybe he's scared I usually look to be alone with some one before I have enough courage to compliment them...never happened there were always people so I never actually said anything. I used to recite scripts but she would make my mind blank out and I would freeze. We had a similar ending though I would just admire from a far knowing she didn't notice me.

PaleandPolluted · 36-40, F

@userfawkes1105 this is different than that. The lack of compliments thing is to stop me thinking i can do better.

userfawkes1105

@PaleandPolluted hope he fades away into ur past and that this story helps anyone going though this...love uplifts not puts down.