I Hate Child Abuse

I am forever perplexed by the 'observation' that those who have been abused are apparently more likely to abuse others later in their own lives. I think it more likely that they would be even more determined to do their bit to stop it happening to anyone else. This is usually part of what keeps them positive about going forward, and the driver behind seeking justice against the abuser. To saddle them with the probability that they too are likely to abuse must be the ultimate hurt.

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shadowplay · 22-25, M

one reason this myth continues is ,who are the studies asking ? proven abusers ,the more telling stat is that almost without exception a child abuser will cry abuse ,it's a shit excuse and it's not true ,but it's a convienient way to explain something non abused people will never understand. living through 15 years of extreme abuse taught me so much about pain and the many ways it can be inflicted . i am not capable of making someone feel the way i did. my entire family were abusers . i'm not following in their footsteps .maybe i'm an exception but none of the survivors i know are abusers now . what your talking about is called the vampire theory,if you get bitten your doomed to become one.it's no more true of abused kids than it is of vampires .both are myths. the ultimate abuse is people believing an abusers excuse that he got abused and it's not his fault

Valentine · M

Hi Shadowplay. This is exactly my thinking. I think it important to understand there is no link of any sort, in fact likely to be the opposite.