What's the best way to help a man through a midlife crisis?

@Primnproper He doesn't need help with that. That's what got him into crisis stage to begin with.

@carpediem but many feel the crisis before they succumb they just don’t recognise it. The guy still has to go for it he’s not forced.

@Primnproper [quote]he’s not forced[/quote]

There are two things that drive this. The first is boredom. Don't let him get bored and you solve one of the major drivers. The second is libido. Once that gets super charged...look out. It's like being a horny kid only with money. You can't stop it, but you can deal with it.

I should be a consultant... 🤷‍♂️

@carpediem I accept those points but that’s what the art of conversation is for. When things went wrong in my previous marriage and I was begging for the help to fix it from him and he knew the problem and it was fixable, I made it plain how desperate the situation was getting so he was in no doubt where it would lead. Then he had no reason to be surprised when I filed for divorce. Men need to make sure their wives/partners know what a desperate predicament they find themselves in, make themselves heard then if they still go elsewhere that’s on the wife/partner.

@Primnproper Good communication. That's the most important single attribute a couple can share. Those who see and value its importance flourish. Those that don't suffer or are driven apart.

It takes two people to fix a problem in marriage. Shame he never understood what you were trying to make him see.

@carpediem oh he’s understood he just had no inclination or drive to fix it then regretted it soon after sadly.