Online dating bio; advice?

Hi I kinda asked around; friends and strangers etc for advice on a *good* Tinder bio. I found some of the comments useful and rewrote it (I’m unsure if I should delete and remake my Tinder account again now the bio is improved)

Im unsure how important bios are considered to be on Tinder? Or what to include?

It’s seems a there is a fine line between self-deprecating, bragging and being humble in a bio

I kinda thought honesty was the best policy and tried to be direct but positive. I kinda think I’m either misunderstanding the assignment or I’m just unclear what is standard on dating app bios? Anyone else unsure on what works?

For context; I’m 32M, live in the UK 🇬🇧 and I’m neurodivergent myself. So summarising myself might be off putting? I don’t even know if Tinder is the app for me - I paid for a month of Tinder; and kinda feel *meh* (i paid for tinder because it felt like the biggest app)

My bio is:

*“My Last Date Didn’t Like Lord Of The Rings… So We Stopped Tolkien”*

*I love animals. Cat-dog dad and proud neurodivergent geek ♾*

*Into pasta, gaming, horror and fantasy shows and movies, reading, and making tiny clay models*

*Politically on the left. I value kindness, honesty, and solid communication*

*Coffee, or a pub date? Swipe right and let’s pick one*

So yeah:

1. a pun-based “joke” (dad/ pun based jokes are good in bios I think)
2. mentions pets and being ND ♾
3. hobbies to spark a bit of interest
4. politics and a bit about who I want to date, so I kinda set a tone (kinda implies my character too)
5. a date idea to set an expectation

I’m missing something or I’m saying something bad? Feel free to tell me if I’m doing something wrong lol

But yeah; as a wider discussion: does the bio throw you all off a bit too?

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froggtongue · M

It looks like a good bio to me. Why is it you're asking? Are you not getting all the dates you think you should be getting? It needs time to propagate.

On the other hand from what i've heard about Tinder is that it's more about finding one-night sex partners. I may be wrong or maybe that's how it used to be and is no longer.

GoldenOldie · 31-35, M

@froggtongue I’ve seen a few people that looked interesting - I kinda want my profile to look as good as it can be

I guess if they “left swiped” me they won’t see me again? I’m not sure if it shows me again to them eventually though

Maybe I’m better off restarting it?

I had a bunch of bios. One was too long and one had a lot of stuff that might be too “negative”

I think this one is better? I did a separate post with photos of me too. Ideally I’d hit the perfect notes to give me the best chance possible

I think there’s a lot of “causal” dates

But there’s a long of “long-term” too. Is Tinder the biggest dating app out there?

froggtongue · M

@GoldenOldie That's a good way of going about it. I like that a lot. You've kept improving the appeal of your profile.
About starting a new profile with your updated format or keeping what you have, if you're in an area with a large populace, if you're in an area with a large populace, I wouldn't worry about deleting your account and starting a new one. If you're not in such an area, then it would be probably be really beneficial to do that.
Good luck and let us know how things develop.

GoldenOldie · 31-35, M

@froggtongue I think learning and improvement allows you to get ahead in dating online and offline ☺

Hmm interesting. Do you know if people that said “nah” and swiped left before - do they get shown that person again? Or is it like a “one time” deal? Swipe left and I’m
Gone for good 🙃

That’s what’s making me consider retrying it… if I had a second chance at a first impression 😉

froggtongue · M

@GoldenOldie I don't know. I see your reasoning. And if you want to secure that someone will see you again then just go ahead and do it. But I don't know much of anything. So swipe at your own risk. 😛

GoldenOldie · 31-35, M

@froggtongue depends though! I did a lot of swiping when I had premium… so I really want to delete and start again? Hmm 🤔