I Want to Make a Postive Difference In the World

I am trying to be positive and inspire good however I can but that’s very difficult at the moment. I am making this post because I need your help, advice, opinion.

Currently, I feel like I’m on pause. I am angry/tired of the negative energy from friends, family, and loved ones. There is a lot of built up anger from staying silence throughout the years and returning the favor by giving back negative energy at them. I am tired of returning that energy.

I recently ended a 6 year friendship and another friendship with my bestfriend due to the exchange of negative energy. How am I going to release all this anger? It leaks out in the worst ways sometimes.

I want to make a positive difference in the world but I can not do that in my current state.

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tj78610 · 51-55, M

I'd recommend working on making yourself whole first.

So just like they train you to put your air mask on first in an airplane and then your child's, you have to make yourself safe and whole before you help others.

In the airplane it is because if you pass out first, neither of you get the oxygen, where if you take care of you first, you both will receive the oxygen you need.

You can do more for the world as your best self- remembering the pain so you can relate- but not still hurting so badly from it that you can't truly give it your all.

Denel · 22-25, M

@tj78610 that’s hopefully my journey, to getting to the point where I can help others(world). Just letting you know, what you wrote really stuck. An hour later I remembered, but couldn’t remember where it came from 💪.

tj78610 · 51-55, M

@Denel Wow! You honor me with those kind words!

I love how you want to do good [i]for[/i] this world. You are using the hurt you feel and have felt to help others experiences be better. That is the noblest of things you can do in this life!

SW-User

Wow I am not in a great position to help you here but I have learnt a couple of things on this journey

One is that anger can build up from a lack of self expression

If you assertively and skillfully address things as they occur, the interactions often go really well

People respond to the emotion

So if you can pleasantly say something, people will often respond pleasantly

Despite the fact you might be telling them that what they are doing makes you feel bad

It would be a bit trite to try and express Buddhist principles here

But two apply. Your anger is only as strong as the proportion of your emotion it's occupying. Increase postive emotions, experiences and relationships and the amount of room anger is occupying decreases, as the room enlarges

Also you can try noticing your anger but detaching yourself from it. The anger is there, but it is not you. It doesn't define you

Denel · 22-25, M

@SW-User lack of self expression is true. Something I’ve been gradually practicing but will practice fully going forward. Saying things pleasantly, I’ll definately do That as well. I notice, I put myself in situations where the response on both side is negative. I’ve been filtering situations and people away to avoid that exchange of energy. ❤️ today will be a day full of positive emotions

SW-User

@Denel Good for you! 🤗

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