Having a heart full of love but no ferocity with which to defend benefactors of said love, you its vessel, nor to vet out users, is folly.

Respect; man.

I think a lot of people rarely know themselves well enough or accept all of themselves for one reason or another...so how can they fully accept another person?
Sometimes it can take years to get to know someone well enough to accept the duality in them. And trust that person. And that's if you are lucky enough to get along in the first place

Also sometimes people have fear or trauma that makes them too afraid to risk getting hurt.

Your post also reminds me of a popular Native American tale

A Cherokee elder speaks to his grandson about life. “A battle rages inside me,” he says. “It is dangerous and it is between two wolves. One is evil. He is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, lies, superiority, and ego.” He continued, “The other is good. He is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, empathy, generosity, truth, and faith. The same fight goes on inside of you and inside of everyone else as well.” The grandson pondered his words and asked, “Which wolf will win?”

In the most popular version, the old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

I think a lot of people see that and think they feed one wolf and starve the other.

But I've heard that in a more original version of the tale, he says :
"if I only feed the white wolf, the black wolf will hide in the dark waiting for me to falter so that it can pounce. He will always be angry and will always be fighting the white wolf. But if I acknowledge him, both he and the white wolf can be satisfied, and we all win.
Feeding only one and starving the other will eventually make both uncontrollable. Caring for both allows them both to serve you, so that you can do something greater, something good with your time on earth. Feed them both and you will quiet their internal struggle for your attention, and, when there is no battle inside, you can then hear the voices of deeper knowledge that will guide you in choosing the right path in every circumstance.

In all these examples I don't see good or bad. I see nature. It isn't always what we see as being kind or nice. It is what it is - survival, sometimes cruel.

Human nature can transcend beyond survival. There is beauty and strength from human endeavors. We can reason and think beyond survival. We can create as well as nourish and protect. That is the beauty of humanity, it's ability to grasp and feel and think beyond our nature.

I'm reminded of the great thinkers, of the Buddhas. Einstein and others who expand our awareness beyond the mundane, beyond being hunters and gathers.

There's more to humanity than dualism. There's a spark of transcendance among us that can reach and pull and bring forth the best of us.

Earth may not be ours to inherit. We may just be guests on here. Very poorly behaved and entitled guests, but yeah.
I agree with your definition of the truest awakening and would add a bit more to your words: ...'but when the many learn to reconcile that which is good in them with that which is bad in them, and move forward in balance as complete beings' and when the many remember who they are.