Do you think siblings bedrooms should be seperated by gender?

I actually forgot that was a thing people did until my last post lol. I share a room with six siblings (three of them are boys, the oldest being 15) and different genders have never caused an issue for us. I've shared a room with my oldest brother since I was around 5 and he was 2😂

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Reject · 31-35, M

I feel as though space and privacy are important for teenagers, but maybe if they’ve never had that their whole life they won’t care.

AmmieBell · 22-25, F

@Reject tbh when it comes to privacy, i wish I had it more with my sisters than with my brothers. So that is true. I'm just not sure how much of it is reliant on gender if that makes sense lol

Reject · 31-35, M

@AmmieBell I honestly wouldn’t trust teenage boys with their siblings. They’re hyper sexual when their hormones start. It can create a curiosity that leads to inappropriate actions. They need a way to express that on their own without constantly being around others.

AmmieBell · 22-25, F

@Reject that would be an issue if they shared a room at all then I guess though. Not just with sisters. It hasn't come up with any of my brothers. It may be a case to case basis I guess

Reject · 31-35, M

@AmmieBell Yeah, it could be an issue. Even if they would never try anything with a sibling there’s another problem. Every guy I knew masturbated almost every day during high school. If they don’t have the time for that because there’s no privacy, it’s going to build up and stress them out bad.

AmmieBell · 22-25, F

@Reject my teenage brother is the only one of us who gets to shower alone, so I guess my parents considered that. The rest of us have to share with a sibling or we'd never have hot water😂😂 but it works out for us at least. It's never raised an issue

Reject · 31-35, M

@AmmieBell That’s good then. At least if he absolutely has to, there’s an option. I mean if it works out and doesn’t ever get weird, there’s nothing wrong with sharing bedrooms with siblings.

AmmieBell · 22-25, F

@Reject I'm sure my parents would work something out if it made me uncomfortable. I just don't think my complains of "he turns my bedroom into a basketball shrine and is always in the middle of the floor with his homework spread out" counts as uncomfortable for them haha

Reject · 31-35, M

@AmmieBell Right. Those aren’t that bad. Lol. Just please be sure to say something though if you do get uncomfortable for any reason. I’ve seen too many families with siblings touching each other against consent and not saying anything to their parents because they’re too afraid and don’t really understand what’s going on.

AmmieBell · 22-25, F

@Reject it wouldn't come up among us lol. My parents have always been really clear about boundaries and things like that. I've seen my six year old sister tell on my oldest brother because he tapped her shoulder to get her attention and she hadn't said he could touch her😂

Reject · 31-35, M

@AmmieBell Good parenting! That’s reassuring to hear. A lot of people just prefer to be safe than sorry with kids, that’s why someone might say siblings shouldn’t share bedrooms, but it sounds like we won’t have to worry about your family. So in your case, I’d say it’s fine.