Laziness/depression or just dont care?

When we first started dating me went out often and now we never go out anywhere unless i take him. I take him out all the time. He hasnt taken me on a date for months or want to do anything with me. When i ask him about it he says hes just so tired and wnats to rest. I admit we go out most of the weekend for buying stock for our business or groceries but thats it. We have had alot of stress lately and has lots of emotional problems but im getting too impatients cos i care so much for him and do everything for him but he doesnt really listen to me when i tell him lets go out. Its been like this for too long now and im getting old i want to have fun.

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SW-User Best Comment

Familiarity breeds contempt, stop doing for him, think of yourself. Go out with friends etc. Let him go buy the stock see what his reaction is. If he makes some effort towards you go with it, if he doesn't fk him. Life's too short!

Clairessa09 · 31-35

@SW-User Hes so exhausted. But hes been liek this since this year. We do relax and rest tho . Mayb a long weekd to do nothing will help?

From a mans perspective help me out

SW-User

@Clairessa09 thanks for BA.

I don't know him like you and it's hard to be specific. Love can often blind us to what's actually going on, and I've known both men and women become tired of a relationship for lack of enthusiam, boredom and make up lots of BS. You need to know his intentions good or bad you can either ask him straight and be blunt and honest about it, or withdraw the cotton wool you have him wrapped up in enjoy some stuff yourself and see what he does. I'm guessing you want change and not to keep mothering him or do you have a fear he'll leave. He's an adult too, time he behaved like one, see if he'll fight for you and do something!

Clairessa09 · 31-35

@SW-User I mother him too much. I nurture him like a baby,care for him and cook what he wants,been emotional support,gave up on a fulltime job to start a business where im at home. Im a realy great gf and now i feel he doesnt want me anymore. Even tho he says he does. I am dependent on him and maybe soemtimes im too overbearing

When we argue now he wont talk for days compared to bfore he will apologise and call. Now theres nothing at all. Worst part is i have made him my everyrhing. I have broken ties with alot of family members and have no friends

LadyGrace ·

@Clairessa09 You just solved your own problem. You’ve lost yourself in Him. You’re co-dependent and a people pleaser, but don’t get down on yourself. Just correct it.