Laziness/depression or just dont care?

@LadyGrace yes he is not romantic at all. I ahve to say lets get wine and relax,lets go out lets do this blah blah blah. I am so tired

I do have to admit he has done so much for me. Helped me start the business bought a home for us.. we have also had lots of family problem that broke us and i know he feels down and out

@Clairessa09 This changes everything. I didn’t know you both live together. Do I have that right? In that case, he sounds really stressed and burned out. Taking on too much, perhaps.

@LadyGrace yes he has taken on alot on his shoulders and does alot. Always working and then weekdays too he barely rest but its been lik this for a long time now.

I ask him to take me out we will go to a mall walk for a while and them come out. Then we will walk on the beach. He wont buy me coffe or anything to drink we will just walk.

I have to always ask him to take me out too. Im also very stressed out and got lots to do i know his is more than mine but i still cook everyday,care for him,communicate,make effort to go out and whenever i have extra cash i take him for lunch or supper from his side nothing.

@Clairessa09 You need to get to the bottom of this if you’re living with him. This guy either needs a vacation very badly, or he’s such a workaholic, he’s actually forgotten that all work and no play = a very unhappy relationship and life.

@LadyGrace Im saving for a vacation right now.I work from home and helps me alot. Sometimes i think it would have been better if i had a normal fulltime job insted of this business

@Clairessa09 Perhaps he’s also taken you for granted. I’d advise to stop mothering him. By doing so, you’re smothering him and spoiling him. That’s supposed to go both ways. Start taking care of you for once, give him more space, go out alone if you have to, and just maybe he’ll start appropriating and seeing what he’s missing out on. Changing things up....not complaining....will spice things up. Give him a chance to miss you. Stay positive and happy. Not co-dependent, with no life of your own. It makes life much more interesting and fun. You owe it to yourself. It’s not all about him. He’ll appreciate you more. He needs space, too, so lovingly give it to him.

@LadyGrace Thank u very much. I will do that. I know things have to change

@Clairessa09 The business part is good. You just need to make some big changes and take better care of yourself. Definitely work on better communication, right away, but don’t storm in on him. Instead, learn the proper way to communicate. There’s a right and wrong way. I’ve got an article about that, I believe. It might help.

@Clairessa09 They definitely can. You can do this. I know you can. Even small changes = big results. Don’t rush, but stay constant, as well.

@LadyGrace i never storm on him. Always hug him and comfort him and speak witj compassion but i somtyms feel maybe hes bored with me

@Clairessa09 Sorry. I didn’t mean it that way. I just meant when you try new techniques, don’t bombard him with them. Much prayer would be good. Yes, you’re too predictable. Men like challenges, so he probably is bored. Not particularly with you. He just needs more spice in his life, but don’t wear yourself out doing it. Just make the necessary changes. Be more unpredictable and he’ll find you more interesting. Counseling would be good. Free self-help videos are online. Noah Elkrief is the one you need help from online. Look him up. He’s extremely good and popular. Free advice.

PaulDavies on here, is a mentor, but not sure if he’d be up for new clients. I’ve never spoken to him.

@LadyGrace thank u. What can i do to spice things up?give me some tips as i am clueless and drained

@Clairessa09 I should have been clearer. Sorry. I’m not thinking of spicing things up, the same way you are. I used the wrong word. I just meant start changing things, as mentioned in my other posts. The last thing you need to do is start stressing and knocking yourself out to please him. That’s what’s wrong right now, on top of the poor communication. You need to start putting yourself first and take care of you. It will take work, but it has to start with getting out of the co-dependency mode. An excellent way to do that is through Noah’s videos on YouTube or Andy Stanley’s videos. That’s the first thing to do. They have videos on self-esteem, confidence, you name it. Excellent choices!

@LadyGrace lol i honestly did not rven mean or think abt that. Just how to be better.

I will look into it. Thank u