17 is legally an adult? cannot vote, in federal elections, but can work, can live independently, is considered old enough to consent, drop out of school, and work full time, cannot be drafted, but can enlist. Maybe the phrase, “looks grown up” would be less “offensive” ? ppl Are so reactive in today’s world; WTF The president calls a young teenager very attractive, and says he’d be DTF for his own daughter, if things were “different” more than half of ppl don’t care, but you call a legally able to consent “almost adult” good looking and you get yelled at? This is the world with a pedophile as president The 17 y/ o would need to be emancipated? And legally can be
The only concern is if you hold a position of authority for that “almost adult” “Positions of Authority: Even where a 17-year-old has reached the legal age of consent, laws generally prohibit sexual activity if the older partner holds a position of trust, dependency, or formal authority over the minor.” But certainly a complement isn’t of any concern. “Hey nice outfit!” Isn’t inappropriate.
@TheHammer The whole 39 yrs old saying ...you're hot...do a seventeen year girl. Then say that he just wanted to make her feel good about herself...Of all the motivating things you can say to a teenager..you look hot...is a bit weird...
But sexualizing is exactly what it is. You are not only saying that she is sexy to you, you are saying that’s the way she earns her oxygen, being attractive to you. How about “smart,” “talented,” or “creative,” or any of many qualities she may have. You are telling her and anyone in earshot, that you SEE her as sexual and only sexual. And you’re telling us that’s not what you meant. Not very credible.
A non-sexual compliment could probably have accomplished that much better. Grown men say inappropriate things to young girls not realizing that for many it just makes them uncomfortable. 🥺
@bijouxbroussard I think I meant Iwhat would make a 35-year-old man cross that boundary with a teenage girl in the first place. Being around teenagers can be perfectly innocent. Sexualising one is something else
@HeadSpace I like to think that most guys aren’t predators, because that’s who would sexualise a child. I might be giving them too much credit, though. Even guys who have mothers and sisters can be tone deaf about sexism.